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  •  I have seen people get all bent out of shape (9+ / 0-)

    when they can't really defend what they are defending .

    I think maybe she knows you are right .

    "Drop the name-calling." Meteor Blades 2/4/11

    by indycam on Fri Jan 04, 2013 at 03:19:50 PM PST

    •  Agreed plus the friend called her an idiot, I (2+ / 0-)
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      think the friend owes her an apology.  

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      by wishingwell on Fri Jan 04, 2013 at 04:20:03 PM PST

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      •  Agreed. "We're Cool" is a cop-out, nopology. (1+ / 0-)
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        And she called the diarist an idiot after forcing the conversation.

        Seems like bully-ish behavior to me.

        •  I sense that as well or maybe I have seen that too (1+ / 0-)
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          often when I was working as a therapy in not just family and marriage relationships but in friendships too. Sometimes it is only during disagreements that we see the darker side of someone. And it is at those times, when we see bullying or pushiness ..that we either have to set boundaries with the person or let go of the relationship. I cannot stress enough how important respect and tolerance are to any relationship. It is absolutely essential for there to be respect, tolerance, kindness, empathy and trust for any relationship to flourish and grow.   And sometimes in order for this to happen, boundaries must be set and talked about. My sister and I have a better and stronger relationship today because I set boundaries and she now respects them. I insisted on it as she does have a strong bossy streak, sometimes bullying, and pushy attitude and behavior. I had to call her out on that and I am so glad I did...we are very very close as a result of that.  

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          by wishingwell on Sat Jan 05, 2013 at 08:10:21 AM PST

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          •  Yes, realationships are complicated; structure and (0+ / 0-)

            boundaries are of great importance. Like you, much of what I've learned about these matters comes from "work" within my own family relationships.

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