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  •  i have some dear friends (7+ / 0-)

    from my college days (a looooong time ago), who I see @ 2 or 3 times a year. We also have an email round robin that we all respond to @ once/month or so.
    We celebrate anniversaries of cancer-survival, support each other when family members are ill, and just "keep in touch" with each other tht way.
     Some of us are liberal city-dwellers, others are conservative small-town folk. Frankly, I don't know HOW conservative the conservatives are because we have agreed to never discuss politics.
    The liberal members of the group & I rant at length with each other, but not around the conservatives.

    I stick with the group because they are hilarious and fun, and there's nothing quite like the bonds you make when you are 19 and away from home for the first time.
    if the subject of guns ever came up, I would leave the room because I fear the ensuing "discussion" would sever a few 30-year friendships.

    I hope you & your friend can set some kind of boundaries like that. I think it's not your fault at ALL, because she is the one who seemed itching for a fight.
    BTW, I don't understand how people can rationally think they can defend themselves from the government with a few automatic weapons. If the government wanted to git you, it would git you, however large your stockpile was or whether your guns were registered or not.

    •  Boundaries. (5+ / 0-)

      That's key.

      I don't allow conversations to veer into dangerous territory, and I know when it's starting to.

      I use the phrase "let's not." That's it. "Let's not," and I'll stand up and offer more wine, more cookies; I'll call over the server and order some more nachos, or take the dogs outside.

      There is no rule that I have to be brought into a conversation that is not of my choosing. I won't sit and listen to someone tell me that my long-held principles are wrong when I've re-examined them again and again, and often arrived at those principles after difficult experiences.

      But I also believe in choosing my battles. Most of the stuff in life we fight with our friends and family over isn't worth the energy, the time, or the fallout.

      I hold tight to my principles, but I hold tight to my friends too. It's not impossible to do both.

      © grover


      So if you get hit by a bus tonight, would you be satisfied with how you spent today, your last day on earth? Live like tomorrow is never guaranteed, because it's not. -- Me.

      by grover on Fri Jan 04, 2013 at 05:29:33 PM PST

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