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  •  Women are treated as the "Other" in our culture (12+ / 0-)

    It's not right, but there are amazing similarities to the response to rape and the response to a minority male being killed.

    What was he doing in the area?
    What was his history, did he have ANY hints of a criminal background?
    How was he dressed?  Was he wearing a Hoodie?
    Why was he there, didn't he consider that people might be threatened?

    It horrific in this day and age that the victim of a crime is subjected to far more scrutiny than the perpetrator.  

    I don't blame Christians. I blame Stupid. Which sadly is a much more popular religion these days.

    by detroitmechworks on Tue Jan 08, 2013 at 12:56:06 PM PST

    •  Happened to me, and I'm a white guy (13+ / 0-)

      Of course, I am also gay and live in a predominantly African-American neighborhood, so I do somewhat qualify as a minority. When I was attacked, without warning, by two teenagers who smashed my face in with a brick (and then ran like the cowards that they were when I fought back), the questions asked were right along those lines - "why were you out after dark?" (um, because it was November, and it gets dark at 5PM then, I was attacked at 6:30 PM), "why were you walking instead of taking public transport?" (because it was 60 degrees that day and I was trying to get in some more exercise) and so on. The saddest part was the questions were asked by my friends and coworkers, not the cops.

      It's something that really ticks me off about our overall culture - maybe we should call it a Crime Culture - we tend to blame victims. When anti-LGBT hate crimes in DC rose recently, what the response? Flyers telling gay people not to walk alone at night. I was stunned - why are we not holding the perpetrators responsible? Where are the flyers telling straight men they shouldn't attack gay guys or trans women?

      I think it all goes back to our cultural elevation of masculinity and maleness above all else. Why can't we limit the number/type of guns people buy? Because of course we can't emasculate men by taking away their guns/power. Why do we blame women for being raped? Because men can't be expected to restrain themselves. We glorify "strength" and "power" and "aggression" in men (just watch a typical football practice) without ever considering the slippery slope we have started down - and that slope ends at the concept of "she's a slut, so she can't be raped."

      A government that denies gay men the right to bridal registry is a facist state - Margaret Cho

      by CPT Doom on Tue Jan 08, 2013 at 02:14:13 PM PST

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      •  I am sorry, truly sorry... (5+ / 0-)

        You did not deserve rape. And you are correct and I agree.

        My piece was written from a distinct point of view with hyperbole to make a clear point, but while writing, I was thinking about ALL rape victims and the culture that allows ANY rape.

        We do blame the victim, because it's somehow easier to think that something invited the "bad" behavior than to believe that the perpetrator could really be so bad.

        I just hope we keep learning and growing.

        Your points are well written, thank you for the addition to the thread.

        •  I don't want to get too far off the subject of (3+ / 0-)
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          physical rape, but to point out that the blame the victim culture that ties into rape is used against victims of other crimes.  The economic situation of blaming the underpaid/unemployed for their situation while not holding banks accountable comes to mind.

          Just wondering where rape culture and blame the victim culture intersect/overlap.

          •  Yup (3+ / 0-)
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            I let a guy, who let himself into my car at a gas station, use my phone when I dropped him off.  He stole it, I called the police, and the cop implied that I was trying to buy drugs, told me I wasn't a victim because I'm not an 80 year old grandma who got mugged, and that since I've lived in the area for a long time I should have known not to be on the street in question.  When I asked for the police report a couple days later it just said "unfounded" with no explanation.  I'm still pissed.

            There is truth on all sides. The question is how much.

            by slothlax on Tue Jan 08, 2013 at 05:13:10 PM PST

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