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    I hold an affinity for cardinals because of my father.
    Back in Michigan just outside of Detroit, we had a rather spectacular yard surrounded by pine trees that he received as a gift and planted and they thrived.
    They're still there and towering now.

    My dad loved birds and went to great lengths to protect them from squirrels.
    There was a cardinal nest at his shoulder level and he showed me the babies and he'd wiggle his fingers above them and they'd hold their heads back and chirp for food.
    It's a great memory and whenever I am feeling especially worried or unhappy, a cardinal or two always seem to show up.
    A cardinal even visited on our wedding day.
    Cardinals are not rare in Arizona but they are where we live and I always take it as a sign from my dad.

    Hugs to you and I hope you feel better soon.

    All we need is LOVE!

    by arizonablue on Thu Jan 10, 2013 at 02:59:12 PM PST

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    •  Thanks blue. What wonderful memories of your (5+ / 0-)

      dad, especially the one about the hungry baby cardinals.  I believe the Universe or God or whatever sense of the Divine you may embrace as a belief set chooses specific messengers as greetings from our loved ones who have passed - especially the ones that will resonate strongly with us.  The rare cardinal sightings where you live are probably that sign from your dad as you say.

      January is a hard month for me to get through b/c I have a touch of seasonal affective disorder (SAD) as well as a mild case of depression (dystymia) and mostly battle it back via herbal supplements, cognitive thinking work based on 9 yrs of therapy - and for me personally - prayer.

      But my dad fell a few days before I was to come back to NYC from WI and got me feeling scared for him and sad for me.  He's fine, luckily a few bruised ribs was all that happened but it got me to thinking that he needs LifeAlert b/c he lives alone in a big house and is 82, going on 83 this September.  He's in good physical shape, drives good and to church, running errands, and to dinner several times a week...but it would only take ONE TIME or ONE FALL...We have great, caring neighbors who can look in on him but if he fell bad and they do have a set of keys to the house and visit him impromptu sometimes.  But having a stroke or heart attack requires immediate help and I'm halfway across the country in NYC...

      Anyway my dad is open to getting this service which I will have to set up when I go home the end of March for Easter.  I'd like it to be sooner but my dad also has short term memory issues so he needs me to repeat a new routine or task to him over and over and over until it becomes routine to him.  I don't mind doing it and getting him into the habit of never taking that LifeAlert button off would be something I would need to be home for - at least initially - to get him going on it consistently.

      And the sad comes in just thinking that my parenting of him has become more involved and will most likely only get more involved - and that's ok.  I always figured this time would come.  But with parenting a parent also comes the thought of losing them one day.  [sigh]  I'm grateful because he and I are so close, many don't have that but I've felt wistful since I've been back in the city this week.

      Anyway, thanks for sharing and of course, listening.


      "For all those whose cares have been our concern, the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die." Ted Kennedy 1980 DNC Keynote Speech

      by Dumas EagerSeton on Thu Jan 10, 2013 at 03:31:42 PM PST

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      •  Will say a little prayer for both you and your dad (5+ / 0-)

        I do understand your worries and fears.

        All we need is LOVE!

        by arizonablue on Thu Jan 10, 2013 at 03:39:45 PM PST

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      •  a medical alert "button" (3+ / 0-)
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        they are wonderful and the service can be cheap.  They save lives.  And, he does not need to wear it outside the house.  He just wears it when he is alone.

        One lady in our church, forgot to take her medical alert button off when she went shopping.  She walked out of the house, down the street and past the fire station.  Suddenly, she slipped on a curb and slid to the ground on wet leaves.  Automatically, she pressed her button.  Realizing that wouldn't work, she wondered what to do.

        Meanwhile, the old man, who's house she had fallen in front of and who had his own medical alert button, was contacted by his Medical Alert folks.  He promised them that he had never hit his button.  They were equally sure that they were getting a "confirmed" signal from his house.   Walking around his house to reassure the medical folks, he saw the lady in the street.  The medical alert folks contacted the fire dept next door within seconds.

        Meanwhile, she had managed to drag herself off the street.  The old man and the firemen helped her up, and the firemen took care of her.  You never know.

        •  Wow that's an amazing story. You have to wonder (1+ / 0-)
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          if there was some other type of aid sent on that day?  I am a believer in angels/guardians who can intervene for us and help us in our time of need.  But that's just me.

          Thanks for sharing that inspiring story.

          "For all those whose cares have been our concern, the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die." Ted Kennedy 1980 DNC Keynote Speech

          by Dumas EagerSeton on Fri Jan 11, 2013 at 08:51:36 AM PST

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