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  •  You should move to NYC (1+ / 0-)
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    where the exact opposite is believed.

    "Today is who you are" - my wife

    by I Lurked For Years on Sun Jan 13, 2013 at 03:57:47 AM PST

    •  Not in my neighborhood it's not. Sigh. (0+ / 0-)
      •  You must be in Park Slope. nt. (0+ / 0-)

        "Today is who you are" - my wife

        by I Lurked For Years on Mon Jan 14, 2013 at 04:39:20 PM PST

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        •  Nope. Kew Gardens Hills. (0+ / 0-)

          The pressure to marry and procreate isn't deadly, and in a lot of cases it isn't even overt, but ... it is pretty much assumed that that's what everybody is going to do when they grow up.  And if you haven't married and procreated, then it's sort of assumed that you just haven't quite grown up yet.

          People just meeting me ask how many kids I have, and sometimes when I say "none" their faces fall and they say "oh, I'm sorry" as though I'd told them about a death in the family.

          And that makes me furious.  Because as it happens I really do want to have kids and it really does distress me that I haven't been able to, but they have no way of knowing that.  And they don't seem to have the faintest clue what an insulting reaction that would be if I didn't.

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