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  •  Lets see--I am going to add to your list (10+ / 0-)


    I am not even going to share all my experiences:

    I was chased down an alley in daylight as a 10 yr old by two men in a truck. I got away, police didn't believe me.

    Was flashed in broad daylight by creepy guy in neighborhood, after he pulled up and asked for directions. I was a young teen, about 13.

    I was stalked in the military.
    I was sexually harassed  several times.
    I was propositioned by someone in my Chain of Command.

    I have escorted inebriated females back to their dorms, when I notice that too many males were looking rather interested and wolfish--waiting for her to fall over.

    Was accosted in a parking lot waiting for a bus in town in daylight, when someone "propositioned" me after pulling his vehicle in close to the bus stop in a manner that made escape difficult.

    I have been groped in various places--bars, crowded thoroughfares by random people.

    I once had a college age girl run into my house unannounced, right through the front door stating she was trying to get away from a violent assailant, a boyfriend. I drove her to her apartment, after she informed me she didn't want to call the cops.

    I had to collect my kids and leave a park, because a boy about the age of 12, tried to stick his head under my 9 yr old's skort. His trashy parents thought that was funny.  A major WTF moment? Can we say, Teaching Moment? Not exactly what I had in mind though I must say.

    Every women I know, has either been raped, and/or molested, and some have also been the victims of domestic violence, and their children too have been molested.

    We have a major problem here and globally. A large percentage of Males feel that they are entitled to women, that all women and children should be available for whatever, whenever, however.

    Regular guys don't want to believe it. They cannot accept that some of their friends are no good assholes, who would rape a person if they can get away with it. They would rather blame the victim, it's easier that way, and there's a precedent for it.

    •  Your list is similar to mine (2+ / 0-)
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      TiaRachel, GreenMother

      and brings to mind two other events that I didn't think of last night--being grabbed when I was in my teens by the older brother of a child I was babysitting, and being followed in a car at 3 miles an hour when I was jogging.  
      These things are so common that we don't report them, don't think them unusual.  But they are events that color the life of all women and affect the way we live in subtle ways.

      We should not be fighting about equal pay for equal work and access to birth control in 2012. Elizabeth Warren

      by Leftleaner on Tue Jan 15, 2013 at 01:14:24 PM PST

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      •  Well you learn not to say anything. (0+ / 0-)

        Our laws and our society acts as if, unless someone actually touches you, or assaults you, then you have nothing to complain about.

        But if the people in that car following you, had assaulted you, it would have been your fault for not notifying the police of a behavior that they likely would have downplayed to begin with.

        You know--perverts will be perverts.

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