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  •  When you are a woman, you grow eyes in the back (8+ / 0-)

    of your head. You learn early on that you have to. Most rapes are committed by people who know the victim.

    you learn that you cannot let your guard completely down anywhere.

    Because like other sexual predators, some rapists like to put themselves in situations where they can be alone with the victim. That way if the matter is reported and goes to court, he can say, "Well your honor, she went off with me alone--she wanted it, it was consensual."

    So yea that feeling is pervasive, and there are social constructs that women have to contend with as well. Many people think that if you go up to a man's room, that sex is a foregone conclusion. And if you get raped, well what did you expect, going up to his room? Etc., and so on. And then when that happens, it's because you are a slut that went up to a mans room and put out, and so you get suiters that magically appear, waiting for their turn!

    It's a party in your pants, and you don't even have to send out the invitations!

    What you fail to understand, beyond the brutality and violation is that this is like a cancerous tumor that has fingers that reach out and affect and are intertwined with other related topics. So to say this is pervasive, this feeling of having to be aware and to avoid, it almost doesn't do it justice, because we are trying to explain to you how women play a dimensional chess game, while you keep comparing it to Chinese Checkers or something.

    This is way more complex than you are able to comprehend in this moment. You have only just skated on the surface of this, unaware of what lurks beneath, nor the depths that one can sink into this topic alone.

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