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  •  well, yes, but (3+ / 0-)
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    qofdisks, DvCM, CA wildwoman

    I'm ASD myself, and IME, the concept/awareness that other people have other things which concern them -- & related, that there are things I'm good at which others aren't, & that others are good at things I have no clue about -- goes way, way back. Other people live in different worlds, and it's clear that they're as clueless about mine as I am about theirs.

    (But that is why, in this sort of discussion, I always try to point out that 'cluelessness' isn't a voluntary state adopted to annoy other people.)

    I think there's a strong gender component to these attitudes. Partly maybe in early brain development, but it's also true that the culture develops/rewards center-of-the-worldism in boys/men, and crushes it in women. These attitudes are just too common in men (3D-world & online) for it to be predominantly an ASD issue.

    •  You're very correct. 'Normal' for males is skewed (0+ / 0-)

      WAY too far to arrogant ignorance / ignorant arrogance for my tastes & the safety of most people.

      I do have to say I taught my husband & kids that a lack of social skills is not a character flaw, but acting unkindly is a serious character flaw.

      That tends to make them try to stop & think about their role in situations before they act, & since they're not purposely mean people they usually act kindly.

      They also teach that to their friends & classmates when necessary, which helps them quickly distinguish who the kind people are around them & who they need to avoid because they're bullies.

      My other view is that testosterone is a problem when it comes to living with others safely. That's observed throughout biology. So human males need more help & teaching not to think with their 'balls' but use their brains instead. They like to think they do, but too often they don't. We raise livestock, so my kids got to see the behaviors first hand.

      Life is a great teacher if you're paying attention.

      Something that doesn't make good sense, makes bad sense. That means someone is being deliberately hurtful & selfish. Look for motives behind actions & words.

      by CA wildwoman on Wed Jan 16, 2013 at 02:56:03 AM PST

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