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  •  From a Stage 4: Ask questions, hang on.... (7+ / 0-)

    I am holding you both in the light, Ken.

    I've been living with a diagnosis of metastatic breast cancer--multiple sites, although not the spine--for nearly 6 years now. There are a few things I can tell you:

    The first news can be devestating; then you start taking steps, one at a time. You just have to deal with/get through each step, each task...and keep asking questions, as many as you want.

    They probably need to biopsy the "mass" (docspeak for what is often a tumor) to find out what it is--if cancer, what kind--so that they can use the best way to treat it. Different cancers respond to different drugs, etc.

    Maybe they will decide to do radiation and/or chemo before surgery--often it is better to shrink the tumor (once you know what it is) before going in with the knife.

    With good treatment, folks can live a long time with even deadly disease. It's terrifying to look all the way down the road, but most of the time, you don't have to. Just deal with today.

    Hang in there. And never let anyone tell you to give up hope.

    Here's my blog--not often updated, but some background, particularly about statistics and disease:

    Love and hope to you both,

    "...somewhere to the left of 'Whoopee!'..."

    by Chantez les Bas on Mon Jan 28, 2013 at 07:29:05 AM PST

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