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  •  Warm Happy Birthday. (18+ / 0-)

    A humble suggestion, if I may...

    ...celebrate this birthday the way I have celebrated mine for many years: as a sort of personal Thanksgiving.  Rather then "I'm a year older" I think of it as "I made it another year, and look at the blessings I have brought with me."  Then, even under such difficult and uncertain circumstances, I bet you and Leaves share a wonderful birthday together.

    My fiancee and I once celebrated Valentine's Day in a hospital; after a very difficult colonoscopy, I returned to the room to find she was fast asleep in a chair, completely exhausted.  I snuck out to the gift shop, bought a hospital teddy bear and a small bunch of flowers, and gently put it in her arms.  She woke up with it.

    To this day, she still has that gift.

    •  I am getting to know this hospital very well (20+ / 0-)

      i now have engraved in my mind the hours for the foodcourt and the little Starbucks place in the lobby.

      We know the hours she can order her meals

      I know that between 8 PM and when the lobby reopens in the morning I have to come and go through the Emergency Department.  This morning when I was coming back after several hours at home while she slept when I came through the ED this morning the security guard asked why I was coming in.  I explained briefly about my wife and he waved me through.

      I do not for a moment regret the time I am spending here.  Others have offered to relieve me, but Leaves is something of an introvert, so I stay to make sure she is not alone.  She has music she can listen to, things she can read on her I-Pad using a book application.  And I can always amuse her with my bad jokes.

      Last night she watched the first half of Rachel, but she really has not been interested in what is on TV, so we have kept it off.

      "We didn't set out to save the world; we set out to wonder how other people are doing and to reflect on how our actions affect other people's hearts." - Pema Chodron

      by teacherken on Tue Jan 29, 2013 at 05:56:28 AM PST

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    •  Amen. (4+ / 0-)
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      ...celebrate this birthday [...]  Rather then "I'm a year older" I think of it as "I made it another year, and look at the blessings I have brought with me."  
      I've never understood why people get so upset about birthdays, even before my first husband died and I had cancer three times.

      As Laura Linney observed in a NYT magazine interview sometime over the last year or two, it is a privilege to grow older.  Many never got/get that opportunity.

      "The fears of one class of men are not the measure of the rights of another." ~ George Bancroft (1800-1891)

      by JBL55 on Tue Jan 29, 2013 at 09:03:32 AM PST

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    •  I love your thinking (3+ / 0-)
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      Rather then "I'm a year older" I think of it as "I made it another year, and look at the blessings I have brought with me."
      In about a month I'm having my annual "event" which I think of as being another year wiser.

      I celebrate it playing bingo at the local casino where they let you use your birthday "day" as an extra free space, so I'll get to mark "4" as if it's already called (birthday 3/4) so I look forward to it every year.  Others dread the reminder of our mortality.

      There already is class warfare in America. Unfortunately, the rich are winning.

      by Puddytat on Tue Jan 29, 2013 at 10:45:58 AM PST

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      •  I think it's different... (3+ / 0-)
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        ...when you've suffered through, and (partially) recovered from a nearly fatal disease.

        There are few privileges that people take more for granted, I think, then good health - until they lose it.  I think it's just the human condition...nobody WANTS to be sick, after all.

        After nearly dying of something, the birthdays are pretty weak tea as far as reminders of mortality go.  Each year I even MAKE it to another birthday seems like a gift, and I treat it as such.

        •  That absolutely is a game changer (3+ / 0-)
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          and changes the perspective that someone has about lifes other obstacles.  Somehow they seem much smaller in comparison.

          There already is class warfare in America. Unfortunately, the rich are winning.

          by Puddytat on Tue Jan 29, 2013 at 03:18:44 PM PST

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