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  •  Hey Kaos, great diary! (4+ / 0-)

    As to you particular medical concern, how about breaking it down a bit further? Your average doctor's office is basically mainstream-oriented - they're geared towards dealing with "normals", they feel that their style is normal, they're not usually concerned about the patient/user experience.

    The system is not designed to recognize that some individuals have additional needs. Consider yourself the equivalent of a vegan at a barbecue - the hosts are happily grilling up a bunch of flesh, but their core commitment is to create a pleasant experience for their guests. Maybe they didn't plan for a vegan at their party, but they got one, and now it's up to you to negotiate with them a way for you to enjoy this feast.

    There are any number of reasons why you're "refractory", eg
    -negative response to authority roles.
    -negative response to being confined in a room with a stranger.
    -negative response to strange males/females in authority positions.
    -negative response to particular aspects of the standard doctor's office experience.
    -and so on.

    You clearly feel a need/obligation to go to the doctor's, and at the same time a strong resistance to doing so. My advice is to focus on why you feel it's important to go to the doctor's. If there's a strong enough reason for you to do so, then visualize the circumstances that would make your visit a tolerable/acceptable one. Are there things that you'd like to avoid, or that you feel uncomfortable with? Identify those things, and negotiate your way past them. Maybe you want a buddy. Maybe you want a commitment that things will be done in a certain way. When you go to the doctors, you're a playing client just like you are when you buy a coffee. If you don't think you'll get the service or treatment you want, you can go somewhere else.

    I definitely sympathize, because I have a condition that complicates my medical experiences. I've found ways to work around it, but I don't expect respect from the medical community when I am in their care, and it's been up to me to find ways to manage it: Viscerophobia...

    •  Thank you =) (2+ / 0-)
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      liz dexic, hooper

      I will be going to the doctor, there is no doubt and I know the course of treatment that will occur.

      Refractory, in my case, refers to the condition in my body that will not heal, no matter what they have tried. Superbugs are real, my friends, and they strike hard.

      Once this period of psychological resistance is over, I'll dive headlong back into treatment, but it's like someone said a few posts back...after being on this "job" for so many years, vacations are necessary with more frequency.

      I'm not one to run from fear, not usually, and in fact I'm only hiding away from it at this moment.

      Thanks again, for reading =)

      You take the blue pill, the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes. -Morpheus/The Matrix

      by Kaos on Wed Jan 30, 2013 at 08:31:08 AM PST

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