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  •  A child's sense of time is different. (12+ / 0-)

    For those of us in middle age, a year seems like hardly any time at all.  For a child, the prospect of having to wait another year or two, or perhaps longer, before he can escape the ceaseless torment can seem like too much to bear.   That's why early and immediate intervention is imperative.

    I spent years and years of my life being bullied for being gay.  Back then, there was no place to turn.  When I went to bed at night, I used to pray I'd never wake up.  I'd gladly have killed myself, but I couldn't bring myself to hurt my parents like that.  So I stuck it out.  I lived through it, but it left its scars, and they are with me to this day at age 52.

    Every time I read one of these stories I despair.  I had hoped that with all the progress we've made over the last couple of decades, young people would no longer feel the need to seek refuge in the grave.  But here we are in 2013, and our society continues to torment LGBT youth so severely that many of them still find death preferable to the lives they lead.

    Jadin's suicide, and the suicide of other LGBT children, is not only a tragedy.  It is also an indictment.  Let's hope that this time, someone will finally be listening.

    "Ça c'est une chanson que j'aurais vraiment aimé ne pas avoir écrite." -- Barbara

    by FogCityJohn on Tue Jan 29, 2013 at 04:46:22 PM PST

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    •  It's Not Just School Torment..... (6+ / 0-)

      It's Facebook & tweeting.  It's online harassment & shunning.

      It seems a good place to start would be on the first day of school w/ an auditorium packed w/ everyone in the school being told it would not be tolerated & that a network had been established to report any torment, any bullying, any & all evidence of shunning or other brutality & on line bullying.

      Parents would be notified.  Suspension would be a consequence & recorded on school records to be attached to grades submitted for college application.

      Start making it hurt, creating a paper trail to follow the bullies where ever & when ever they lurch.  

      •  Good idea... (2+ / 0-)
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        Chrislove, 207wickedgood

        ...but ripe for abuse. You would have to be VERY careful to make sure the teacher's pets didn't use it to twist the story around and convince the grown-ups that the victims were in fact the bullies. You'd be shocked at how easy it is to fool some adults.

        Certaines personnes disent qu'il y a une femme à blâmer, Mais je sais que c'est ma faute sacrément.

        by RamblinDave on Wed Jan 30, 2013 at 04:46:35 AM PST

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