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  •  What is so disgusting to me is the twisted (3+ / 0-)

    and warped theology and the obsession with "sin" it creates.

    Why the hell do troubled people always seem to turn to the crackpot wing of evangelical Christianity to solve their problems? If this guy actually understood how truly twisted what he believes is--in an historical context--he'd realize that the person he is truly abusing here is Jesus.

    What is truth? -- Pontius Pilate

    by commonmass on Tue Feb 05, 2013 at 06:10:02 AM PST

    •  That's the thing that gets to me. (4+ / 0-)

      It's... there are so many things wrong with it all that I can't even start to list them (and of course in the fundie evangelical pattern of trying to shout people down, that gets interpreted as 'doesn't have an argument against us').

      Starting with the legalism that underlies it all, that you're somehow supposed to be this perfect creature if you're really Christian and not an imperfect creature God's decided to forgive for being so and has arranged things so that's okay in the eternal consequences sense.

      So you end up with people who have guilt trips that are a hundred times worse than before they encountered the church, just because a pastor told them they had to be perfect to repay God or to be worthy in the first place. Heck, one of the youth publications I had exposure to back when felt the need, the absolute need, to explain to evangelical middle schoolers that while you're supposed to let God guide your choices, you don't have to pray about what color socks you ought to wear.

      Seriously. Enough evangelical kids were getting bogged down in 'what color socks would God want me to wear' that they felt the need to express the freeing thought that free will can come into little choices like that. Hemlines, of course, were still legalistically controlled.

      I count myself lucky that my natural inclinations mostly matched what they wanted people to legalistically do. But I got screwed up in the head other ways by them, and when I think of some of the things I witnessed...

      I've witnessed someone just about being shamed out of the church for eating during 30 Hour Famine in exactly the way she'd been told she'd be allowed if it got too intense for her - and it did, and given her weight they should have known it would before the event even started - and this continued for years after the incident. People calling soul-crushing things expressions of the spiritual gift of encouragement. Verbal spousal abuse in the youth Sunday School (as in, on church ground during class with youth watching) and the couple remaining in charge of a class afterward, an example to the youth of what a Christian marriage is supposed to look like.

      Someone defending himself with "I'm not gay!" automatically upon expressing nostalgia for nice things his mother did with him when he was five. Because that was over the nice big legalistic fence our church had around the concept of anything but macho heterosexuality in men.

      I've been told I don't have the spiritual gift of mercy precisely because I stand up for people being hurt even if the people in power in the situation don't link it, and I know they'd tell me now that I'm unChristian for simply deciding to trust God and strive be a good person in the limited ways my fallible human self can manage - even though that's pretty much EXACTLY what the words in red say we're supposed to do.

      Prayers and best wishes to those in Japan.

      by Cassandra Waites on Tue Feb 05, 2013 at 08:55:12 AM PST

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