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    I'm sorry I missed your earlier diaries.  I'm a teacher and have a spouse who has been through hell and back.  She has back issues that will never go away (2 fusions and maybe a third down the road) and mental health issues, to include PTSD from a horrible assault 13 years ago.  When we were dating, she would have worse flashbacks than any soldier I ever served in combat with.

    But I love her more than anything.

    And I guess that's the most important thing I can pass along from my own life.  I'm engaged in any number of social justice activities that I care deeply about.  I spent a month in Haiti this past summer and plan on returning again this year.  I run my school's Thanksgiving food drive, delivering turkeys and food stuff to over 400 families.  I am part of a bazillion other activities and am constantly working to improve my students' understanding of the real issues in the real world.  Hell, I'm taking a break right now from screening two Frontline episodes on mental health and prisons.

    But, in the end, everything else is nothing when it comes to making sure that my wife has everything she needs and is in good health.  If she should ever not be able to work--which is a definite possibility--I am ready to do whatever it takes to ensure that she will be stable and we can manage to get through it.  And that means that everything else is superfluous.  If I have to scale back everything at school other than teaching, so be it.  If I need to find a different teaching job closer to her family so we can move there, fiat.  

    As a veteran who almost died in the war, I suppose my view of things is a bit different.  There's nothing physical in my world that I cannot do without.  

    In the big scheme of things, all that matters is life and those whom we love.  

    All the big picture stuff--even if we find meaning in being an active part of trying to bring about change in a small way--is important, but it pales in comparison to doing what we can for those who are closest to us.  Particularly if what we can do for that person is to alleviate some suffering or provide some comfort.  

    To be free and just depends on us. Victor Hugo.

    by dizzydean on Sat Feb 09, 2013 at 04:30:11 PM PST

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