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  •  Oh, Anton... (9+ / 0-)

    this was a very poignant diary. I've only been heavy three times in my life: freshman year in college, and postpartum twice.

    I gained weight in college because at home I was NEVER allowed to drink soda or have any dessert except ice cream, or the occasional piece of cheesecake or birthday cake, rarely. I discovered the wonder that was Pepsi with lemon, and drank three glasses daily. Long story short: I went home, and my father addressed me as "Chubso" or "Lardass" for all of Thanksgiving vacation. That pissed me off, as he no doubt intended, and I went back to college, and LOST the weight. How?

    I stopped eating ANYTHING white. No white bread, no rice, no pasta, no mayonnaise. I used lettuce as a wrap instead of bread, spread with mustard. I did leg lifts while holding on to my roommate's bunk. And talking. I took the stairs instead of the elevator. I dragged myself to the gym, and grimly did sit-ups on a slantboard.

    I haven't had a Pepsi in YEARS. i like it better than Coke, so I buy Coke for the occasional hangover. Since I don't really like it, i don't drink it unless I need caffeine and sugar. I must be hungover :) And that's rare, so...no soda.

    I do NOT keep snacks in the house. I only eat when I'm hungry. Sometimes, I forget to eat, and I get a headache. Then I realize that I'm an idiot. I substitute turkey for ground beef, always. I do NOT use salt. I use pepper, spices, and herbs. I always buy anything I can with "No salt added," and I read labels with the intensity of a mad scientist. DH eats six times a day, but also works out like a fiend.

    I put hot sauce on almost everything. I prefer Cholula to Tabasco. Capsacin can help speed up your metabolism.

    Basically..."Eat to live, don't live to eat." That's my philosophy. I had to do the "pretend your food is covered with ashes" at first, but as your stomach shrinks, so does your hunger. It's hard, but if you can change your eating habits now, you will will always have them. Back then, we didn't have brown rice or white fiber pasta. We do now. My children don't LIKE white bread because it is tasteless to them. I buy whole grain. Losing weight is HARD. Harder still is keeping it off. But i have, for more than 20 years. You can, too.

    I'm sorry about the fat jokes. I never make them, personally. It's not funny.

    Cook with olive oil. Sauteed veggies with a little lemon and pepper are GOOD! I'm sorry for your sadness. If you'd like recipes, or motivation, Kosmail me. It's too important to let it slide.

    "...Males are biologically driven to go out and hunt giraffes.” —Newt Gingrich in 1995

    by BadKitties on Sat Feb 09, 2013 at 10:51:41 PM PST

    •  Some of us do in fact live to eat (1+ / 0-)
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      I don't drink, smoke, sleep around (this is hazardous, seriously), live in a dangerous district, keep unsecured guns in the house or any of the other risk factors for bad health.

      But I like food.  All kinds of food. Good food.  Junk food.

      I cook from the farmer's market, soup, salad, fruit and entrees from scratch.   But sometimes, when the job is demanding and there just isn't time for anything else, I eat fast food too.  Sometimes also I just need a break and want someone else to prepare the food for me and take care of me for an hour, so I go out to eat.  I'm the best cook I know (I was shocked recently when my sister visited, someone I always looked up to as a good cook,  and I realized I'd passed her somewhere in the last 20 years).  It isn't a matter of recipes, skill or ingredients.  

      I exercise too, until I get sick or injured.  Then I come back from being sick or injured and eventually end up with some level of moderate exercise (usually something aerobic daily, weights a couple times a week).  It's just life.  I'm not going to be able to do high intensity exercise, and my primary goal aside from a basic level of activity is to not get injured and to maintain the strength/flexibility that I have.

      Regardless of what I do, I've gained 10 pounds every 5 years since I was 15.  I started out skinny.  Now I'm heavy.  The only things that changed the pattern were intense exercise (Karate daily for a year or so when I was in college, and a job that had me walking 7 hours a day when I was a security guard for 18 months).  This level of intense activity leveled off the weight gain, but did not reverse it, and when I got a sedentary job, my body "caught up".

      My point is that each individual is different.  Changing habits to improve your health isn't just a matter of following a formula.  It has to be something your body responds well to, without injury of any kind, and it also has to be something you can do without hating life, emotionally.  

      I find diet extremely hard.  If I do it, I have to still eat good food, but I have to measure freaking everything or the portion sizes will be too large.   If I "eat when I'm hungry, stop when I'm full" too many calories go into my mouth for my activity.    If I measure very carefully I can sometimes find the right mix of carbs/fat/protein to fool myself into not feeling hungry with far less calories.

      But I also work a demanding job, and care for a disabled wife.  Most of why we eat good, healthy food is she literally can't eat anything else without getting very sick.  So I spend all weekend shopping and preparing food, literally.   A freezer has helped, because some weeks we have enough stored up that I can ease off on the cooking.

      If I was retired, or simply had a 40 hour a week job, I could deal with the measuring.   In the meantime, I do the best I can, and so does she.

      In the meantime we make sure most of our calories come from home prepared, fresh, real food, prepared with sustainable methods and with no additives or industrial processes.  We make sure we walk every day no matter what the state of our health and energy.  We also do other things our doctors suggest (such as cpap for her and soon for me, once the damn medical equipment company ever gets done wrangling with my insurance company)

      The best financial advice I was ever given was something an accounting teacher told me in high school.  "The best accounting method for your personal finances is something you will actually do."

      Eating well and exercise is the same thing.  If you can't emotionally do it, you won't do it and you'll just backslide and feel bad.   First find something you CAN do emotionally that is better than you're doing today.

      Then build on it.

      You may not stay skinny, but you will be healthier than you would have otherwise.

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