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  •  OMG you're friggin gorgeous :) (13+ / 0-)

    Then again, "zaftig" is my usual preference anyway :D.

    Anyhow, to your point, my 17-year-old daughter has one of those causes of obesity nobody talks about when they're flinging blame--Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. She has worked very hard on her weight--she was teased for being "pregnant" a few years ago--but she still has what she calls The Muffin-top and she can't get rid of it.

    However, over the last year, she's gotten to a perfect place about it. "Yes, I have The Muffintop, but I also have J-Lo's ass and D-cup cleavage. Fair trade, if you ask me." :D

    "Maybe: it's a vicious little word that could slay me"--Sara Bareilles

    by ChurchofBruce on Sun Feb 10, 2013 at 06:58:09 AM PST

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    •  My now 6 year old (11+ / 0-)

      was teased relentlessly for being "fat" by some little snot in kindergarten. She was, at the time, in the 20th percentile for body weight. She has the same "curse" I do though, and is "curvy" even at her age.

      Actually, this started well before kindergarten...I remember when she couldn't have been more than 3 years old she was in her carseat and just burst into tears. She was pinching and slapping her thighs-she said she hated them because they were "chubby".

      I don't know where she gets it from. I go out of my way to model a positive body image for her and always tell her she's beautiful and perfect just the way she is (and it's true!) but it's like society has already wrapped their tenticles around her, and convinced her to hate her body.

      My 10 year old niece IS overweight-but has always been a little chunker, ever since she was a baby. After her mother died (she was only 7 and it was totally unexpected  and awful) she was not taken care of the way she should have. She didn't get therapy, her dad fell off the wagon and started neglecting her, and she began to compulsively over-eat to self-soothe. Now she's dealing with the bullying -at school, and what horrifies me even more, within our own family who think if they shame her enough, she will just get skinny :(

      The way we stigmatize adults is bad enough, but the impact this has on children, especially girls, is just unacceptable.

      You must work-we must all work-to make a world that is worthy of its children -Pablo Casals Please support TREE Climbers for victims of child sexual abuse and exploitation.

      by SwedishJewfish on Sun Feb 10, 2013 at 07:13:27 AM PST

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    •  Every time I see that pic, my thought is, (2+ / 0-)
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      "breathtakingly beautiful"!  Jennifer Anniston should be so lucky.

      Cats are better than therapy, and I'm a therapist.

      by Smoh on Sun Feb 10, 2013 at 09:30:57 AM PST

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