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  •  Sometimes, we put the best face on things, (20+ / 0-)

    even if the face is false. To survive. To stand outside our shame. To conceal what we fear will never be understood.

    It might be better if we never had to. Maybe we don't, even.

    But if we believe we do, then we do.

    Being human's hard, and not always lovely.

    I made a video about grieving this week. It's here, but I should warn: it's very irreverent. But funny.

    Peace to all tonight.

    Republicans represent both sides: the insanely rich and vice versa.

    by Crashing Vor on Mon Feb 25, 2013 at 05:12:27 PM PST

    •  yes, irreverent, but I liked it! (8+ / 0-)

      although i would never intentionally send a ham to a person who does not eat pork for religious or ethical or health reasons, I do think the song makes an important point.

      Eating after a funeral is a common feature of many different cultures.  A gift of food is a widely-accepted signal of affection and caring.  And sometimes we say at my church that eating after a funeral is an important affirmation of life because eating is something that only living people can do.

      Eating is also something that grieving people sometimes forget to do, or even avoid doing.  Even that basic level of self-care can be too much effort when the fog of grief is thick and mixes with the inertia caused by situational depression.

      So having food handy that is already prepared and does not need cooking can be an EXCELLENT way to care for the grieving.

      Politics is like driving. To go backward put it in R. To go forward put it in D.
      Drop by The Grieving Room on Monday nights for support in dealing with grief.

      by TrueBlueMajority on Mon Feb 25, 2013 at 07:38:57 PM PST

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      •  Am not able to eat anymore. (3+ / 0-)

        I try but can't swallow...  Then feel nauseous and throw up   At first I could eat but now it is hard to even swallow water...  Have lost over 30lbs since my husband died.     Don't know what I can do to stop this starvation reflex

        "You've got to be an optimist to be a Democrat, and a humorist to stay one" - Will Rogers

        by KnotIookin on Tue Feb 26, 2013 at 02:23:41 PM PST

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        •  you can't go very long without water (2+ / 0-)
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          i hope you are getting medical care, KnotI

          a muscle relaxant may help you swallow

          grieving people often do not want to eat.  losing weight is normal.  but not drinking enough water will quickly worsen any health problems you already have.  i am holding the thought of you having a water glass nearby always and taking very small sips continually throughout the day

          You made it through the first month.  Believe believe believe that he would not want you to blame/punish/starve yourself for something that is not your fault.

          believe believe believe that he would want you to live

          Politics is like driving. To go backward put it in R. To go forward put it in D.
          Drop by The Grieving Room on Monday nights for support in dealing with grief.

          by TrueBlueMajority on Tue Feb 26, 2013 at 05:46:17 PM PST

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