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  •  Yeah the media puts me off sex almost (4+ / 0-)

    as fast as a strip club. Commercialism and sex just don't mix.

    "Til you're so fucking crazy you can't follow their rules" John Lennon - Working Class Hero

    by Horace Boothroyd III on Sat Feb 23, 2013 at 01:42:51 PM PST

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    •  That's the odd thing for me. (2+ / 0-)
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      Yeah, repulsed het asexual, bit of a different view here by default.

      But it is the media stuff and the wonders of SURPRISE!porn on Tumblr (which is one of the major online gathering spots for asexuals currently, go figure) that really squicks me out. That and 'you will do this and like it because everyone is heterosexual and you are woman so there is no use for you but this' religious rhetoric.

      Listening to discussion of anything up to but not including Slot A Tab B mechanics? That doesn't cause an issue. If I was repressed instead of repulsed, I'd be blushing scarlet any time I encountered those. But then, thanks to the nature of those discussions, I'm usually consenting to listen or read those.

      The rest is assumed consent - 'you wouldn't let any Tumblr account flagged as potentially adult put anything on your dash if you didn't want to see that', 'you can't not consent to hear this because I'm talking about God's demands of you as someone with two X chromosomes', and 'we have discovered this will let us sell frat boys more beer, so you have to watch this ad if you watch the same things the college demographic does' - and assumed consent is a bad framework for everyone.

      (I would not be surprised if a lot of no-sex-wanted partnered asexuals did in fact have safe words, simply because so many things that wouldn't be assumed to require consent in other relationships can be over an asexual's personal hard line of permanent non-consent. It's been rather interesting to see the ways the 'consent to practically nothing' and 'consent to things most wouldn't' worlds intersect in things like Importance Of Consent Checks discussions.)

      Prayers and best wishes to those in Japan.

      by Cassandra Waites on Sat Feb 23, 2013 at 05:07:46 PM PST

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      •  Assumed consent is very dangerous. (1+ / 0-)
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        Horace Boothroyd III

        One of the things I quite enjoy about my kinky milieu is that consent is never assumed, and what is acceptable and what isn't is always negotiated before play.

        When you come to find how essential the comfort of a well-kept home is to the bodily strength and good conditions, to a sound mind and spirit, and useful days, you will reverence the good housekeeper as I do above artist or poet, beauty or genius.

        by Alexandra Lynch on Sun Feb 24, 2013 at 01:10:12 AM PST

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