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  •  You mean like this: (5+ / 0-)
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    As women must be more empowered at work, men must be more empowered at home.
    And this:
    We all need to encourage men to lean in to their families. Unfortunately, traditional gender roles are reinforced not just by individuals, but also by employment policies. Most companies in the United States offer more time off for maternity than paternity leave, and men take far fewer extended breaks from work for family reasons. Our laws support this double standard. In the United States, only five states provide any income replacement for the care of a new baby (which is a large problem in and of itself). In three of these states, this benefit is only offered to mothers and is characterized as a pregnancy disability benefit. Only two states offer a paid family leave benefit that fathers can use. In general, fathers do not take much time off for a new child; a survey of fathers in the corporate sector found that the vast majority took off one week or less when their partners gave birth, hardly enough time to start out as an equal parent.
    Sandberg does not claim all of the answers. But she is willing to try something to get the conversations started. And we really need to have these conversations again.


    We must not confuse dissent with disloyalty - Edward R. Murrow

    by Susan Grigsby on Mon Mar 18, 2013 at 05:44:53 PM PDT

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    •  My apologies for not reading every word (3+ / 0-)
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      of your review. Thanks for highlighting these passages.

      I'd add, in fairness, we're already moving in the right direction. I was raised in the Age of Divorce, during the 1970s. I remember very well what dad did following a divorce: he split. He basically vanished out of his children's lives. He sent child support, if he was a good guy, and his kids came to visit him during the summer. Nowadays, the role of father is maybe taken more seriously than it was back then. Following a divorce, it's not unheard-of for a father to move to be closer to his kids, and to have some kind of "joint custody" with the kids' mother. It's not unheard-of, either, for married couples to have household responsibilities worked  out somewhat equitably. This was certainly rarer back then.

      It's here they got the range/ and the machinery for change/ and it's here they got the spiritual thirst. --Leonard Cohen

      by karmsy on Mon Mar 18, 2013 at 05:59:59 PM PDT

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      •  Sorry, those were not in my review, but in the (4+ / 0-)
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        book itself. She also tells a story of a friend of hers who was basically snubbed by the Mommy & Me club when he brought his child to a meeting. She thought that was wrong.

        But it was passages like that that brought me down in favor of this book.

        Sandberg discusses the need to work from both directions; women working the system to gain power and at the same time working to change the system to make it easier for women to share power with men.

        We must not confuse dissent with disloyalty - Edward R. Murrow

        by Susan Grigsby on Mon Mar 18, 2013 at 06:16:34 PM PDT

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