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  •  that is sweet of you but in this case (0+ / 0-)

    my daughter was trying to undermine my decision of no more visiting from the little girl.   She had her own plans that got cancelled.   She had a responsibility to watch her little sister outside while playing and she thought if the 3 year old was here, then the 7 year old would  be entertained.   She already had her phone with boyfriend on line in hand.  She had a responsibility and was trying to undermind my rule of no visitation and get out of her responsibility as I was busy with a terminal vet just twenty minutes earlier and working on those issues along with a quick minute to post this,  when actually we at that point would have been responsible for the baby and she didn't want to watch her own sister.  I know why she had attitude.

    She know this as well.

      I did speak to her and she complains constantly about the kids coming over uninvited and trying to go into her room which I don't allow either.   She is a Teenager and she wanted what she wanted to get out of her big sister duty for an hr.
    I knew it and later she admitted she knew I knew as soon as she started talking, I knew where that came from.  

     She was trying to see her boyfriend. The date has already been cancelled.  She knows before she can do anything.. this sitution aside, her regular chores, homework, etc has to be completed and then she has freedom to socialize but not until.   Nothing changed except her attitude.   She was not trying to help.  She set a poor example in front of her 7 year old sister and I am lienant to a point but not when it comes to the house rules.   (Especially if her Dad or me  say no and she trys to change it to yes)  Don't work.  Never will.      

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    by Vetwife on Fri Mar 08, 2013 at 05:21:19 PM PST

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    •  Two lucky girls and maybe a third (1+ / 0-)
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      Vetwife

      Yep, cell phones and boyfriends - that makes sense. But there are two lucky girls in this story - and maybe, I hope, a third. Your daughters have a great role model - someone who cares, and sets high standards for them. (I bet, even if this was a case where she was just trying to game the system, that she has a warm heart, and a lot of courage. And she'll make you very proud someday, when she's all grown up.)

      And the 3-year-old, I hope, will get help, and better parenting. Hoping for the best...

      •  Oh honey, I am proud of her now.... (1+ / 0-)
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        Laurel in CA

        She made a bad judgement call this evening and I am very proud of her most of the time  and told her later that I was sorry that her date had to be cancelled but she knew I  don't go back  on a decision regarding a house rule.  A family standard values rule.   She was eating popcorn and said she knew she was wrong and even admitted she was trying to be with her sweetie,, which I knew and she apologized.   He will come over Sunday so it was not so bad... She knew she blurted out in frustration in front of folks...and that is not how she was raised .. She admitted that tonight.   She does have a warm heart...and she is a teenager.....but I sincerely believe in consistency regarding discipline....  I don't want my 7 year old to bow up like that.   They are like sponges...

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        by Vetwife on Fri Mar 08, 2013 at 09:34:03 PM PST

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