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  •  Is that something that is (1+ / 0-)
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    thought of less favorably, in general?

    Gondwana has always been at war with Laurasia.

    by AaronInSanDiego on Sun Mar 10, 2013 at 11:16:34 PM PDT

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    •  No. (3+ / 0-)

      Where it gets thought of unfavorably is if you call yourself a submissive but instead only want to bottom.

      Rather like the fellow who wants to call himself your boyfriend but actually treats you like a booty call/taxicab. It creates similar resentments.

      When you come to find how essential the comfort of a well-kept home is to the bodily strength and good conditions, to a sound mind and spirit, and useful days, you will reverence the good housekeeper as I do above artist or poet, beauty or genius.

      by Alexandra Lynch on Sun Mar 10, 2013 at 11:19:51 PM PDT

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      •  What about someone who (2+ / 0-)

        may only want these things to a limited degree. Like someone who wants to have a little bit of experience at being submissive, but doesn't want to give themselves into the situation completely, and for a limited span of time? Would that person be considered dishonest if they referred to themselves as submissive? Or is there another term for someone like that?

        Gondwana has always been at war with Laurasia.

        by AaronInSanDiego on Sun Mar 10, 2013 at 11:38:59 PM PDT

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        •  No, you aren't, but you make it clear that (1+ / 0-)
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          the length of the submission is the length of the play session.

          An ethical dominant will agree to "Okay, so you are in my service from 6 pm to midnight, I will not ask you to do X, Y, or Z, sometime during that time I will make sure A happens which you greatly enjoy, and you will use the usual traffic-light safewords as needed." Or whatever arrangement works.

          You're a free agent and entitled to negotiate the terms and the shape of your role until you actually decide to take a collar from someone. Don't assume you have to obey anyone or do anything you don't want to til then.

          When you come to find how essential the comfort of a well-kept home is to the bodily strength and good conditions, to a sound mind and spirit, and useful days, you will reverence the good housekeeper as I do above artist or poet, beauty or genius.

          by Alexandra Lynch on Sun Mar 10, 2013 at 11:47:51 PM PDT

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