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    Sometimes spouses do not stay with a disabled person which means many people solely depend on social security alone.  Not to say that spouses cut and run, but things have changed over the years.
    It is and has always been very hard to have a disabled spouse. In a lot of cases, you basically have two full-time jobs: support yourself and your spouse, and then come home and take care of your spouse, and all of the work that would otherwise be shared between two people.

    Of course, generally the disabled one has it worse. (That's more or less the damned definition.) But that hardly helps, when one looks at one's spouse and thinks, god, my life would be a thousand times easier, and I'd probably live an extra ten years, without you.

    (No, I'm not in that situation. But I've seen it, and it sucks.)

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      divorced when I got ill and became disabled honestly because I would feel so insecure holding someone back in any way of having happiness.  Some of us disabled individuals do not need constant care, but are able to care for ourselves.  

      However, I did have a very close friend in my 30s who died of brain cancer.  Her husband loved her to no end and took care of her until she died.  He was very caring and loving.  He truly loved her and was terribly effected by her death.  I took care of my Grandmother while she was dying and it truly didn't bother me to care for her, or change her diapers, or clean her up.  I really loved her and giving back was never an issue for me.

      It all depends on the illness and closeness of one's loved ones.  

      "During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolution­ary act. " George Orwell

      by zaka1 on Thu Mar 14, 2013 at 08:55:09 PM PDT

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