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  •  BLEH! Rape has nothing to do with competence. (0+ / 0-)

    Rape does not make you mentally disabled.  Rape is so prevalent that most women learn to get on with life.  Women can choose to recover and most do.  Raped women have meaningful and fulfilling lives.
    Women and men are not "ruined" by injury.  Strong people heal and go on.
    Your post makes my skin crawl.

    •  So it's up to "Strong" to pick themselves (1+ / 0-)
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      up by their bootstraps?  What about the "Weak"?

      It's just a bit much to demand that all women be able to not only be twice as good at their jobs, but be "Strong" enough to tolerate being RAPED.  As one in four or five of us ARE.  

      And what about those that are "Strong" but are already at a disadvantage?  What about "The Strong" that sure can do the work but now have an ex-boss running around spreading rumors that she "must be some kind of lesbian" because she filed criminal charges of attempted rape against him?  

      What about "The Strong" that are now also in jail or now have a criminal record because they GBH'd their attacker?  

      What about "The Strong" who, sorry, are just not strong enough to carry on in a field or a small town or an academic department or a workplace where their naked picture has been circulated for the amusement of her co-workers?  

      So your only remedy to an only woman in an engineering department, a remote mining operation, in a data center at night in a data center isolated in the middle of a large industrial park, on a heavy construction site, on the oil patch, on the battle field is to "Be Strong"?

        I'll say it again.  FFS.  

      Oh wait!  You say!  Womens don't mostly do those sorts of jobs.  

      Gee, wonder why.  

      Why So Few.  

      In a co-educational institution, a woman has a higher chance of being raped than getting a BSc in a STEM field.  

      You know, Computer Science, Electrical Engineering, Physics, Mathematics....

      But surely, there is no correlation between women's economic disadvantage and the very real threat of rape in male dominated workplaces and in male dominated fields.  

      After all, all's a rape victim has to do is "Be Strong" to show up on the deck of a merchant ship and not feel violently physically threatened.  

      Right?  

      Or are you just talking about those glorified secretaries in the "Lean In" crowd?  I don't even count those jobs.  "Leaning In" to a pink collar ghetto job, you may as well be banging nails or digging ditches.  No, you'd be better off banging nails or digging ditches -- because that pays more.  

      "We must close union offices, confiscate their money and put their leaders in prison. We must reduce workers salaries and take away their right to strike.” -Adolf Hitler, May 2, 1933

      by bekosiluvu on Mon Mar 18, 2013 at 10:43:08 AM PDT

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      •  Your comment was on the order of a health (0+ / 0-)

        insurance company having rape as a pre-existing condition.  Perhaps and employer would consider a woman that was raped as a bad hire or a bad employee.

        People recover from injury and get on with their lives, they get their education and make careers, get married, have children become good parents.  They can live good lives.
        Rape doesn't have to ruin people.  Rape doesn't have to make a person less competent or cognizant.  It is the rising above adversity that builds that strength and character.  We only have to choose it for ourselves and make it happen everyday.
        The wounds heal and the scars are tough.  There really is only 2 ways to go.  I choose to live as best I can taking joy out of each day...each moment of awareness is eternal.
        I was the only woman at work for 20 years.  I was that rare woman tech/engineer and a minority to boot.  My sexual history didn't hold me up at work.

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