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  •  Tipped, recc'ed and saved. Whew.... (28+ / 0-)

    I have read quite a lot about the Stuebenville rapes, mostly with my mouth open in horror.

     Your post, though, cut through to the personal and the visceral.It also powerfully elucidated important societal truths .
     I , too, hope and strongly believe that if either of my sons had been there ( despite the setiing and circumstances of that town), that they would've acted against the rapists .But, like your son, they have been raised to view women as beings equal in value to themselves. And to know right from wrong.

     Because I have been fortunate, I am one of only a few of my friends who has not been raped. Think about that. Kind of an extraordinary statement, no? ( It does NOT mean that I have escaped sexual harassament, violence and misogeny).

    I well recall attending a performance of Eve Ensler's 'Vagina Monologues', and the powerful moment at the end, where she calls upon the women who have been raped to stand. So many do. Then,  she asks that those who KNOW someone who has been raped to stand...and virtually everyone else rises to their feet.

     Standing there in the audience, I wept, along with many others around me. That moment, like your post, clarified for me ( yet again) that this sick violence affects every single woman in our society.


    •  That must have been a mind boggling experience. (11+ / 0-)

      I wonder if I'm the exception or if I just know so little about the women around me.  I was molested as a young girl, but I don't know of any of my sisters or friends who were raped.  I'm certain my sisters haven't been, but friends?   It's not a subject I've ever discussed with any of them; I'm not someone who gets particularly personal with others.   And I honestly have no idea.  Strange to think it's a subject that's never come up.  

      "If you trust you are not critical; if you are critical you do not trust" by our own Dauphin

      by gustynpip on Thu Mar 21, 2013 at 08:12:05 AM PDT

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      •  I now make a point of talking about mine (4+ / 0-)

        3 attempts of it... unfortunately, even here once I was accused (by a woman no less) of making it up.

        Thats the thing, sometimes its so very ingrained to not believe, to not trust women, to doubt us, that even females help keep us down.

        I hope you are able to share more with your friends and family and find healing in that you are not alone.

        ..the smoker you drink, the player you get....

        by Diane Gee on Thu Mar 21, 2013 at 11:03:16 AM PDT

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