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  •  The imaginary model family (8+ / 0-)
    They've chosen a stock photo to represent the ideal family.  There is no color or variety here.  This is how they see the world.  No doubt the posters live in a suburb where everyone looks pretty much like this.
    I very much doubt it. Maybe that's what they think it should be, and would be if only the gays and liberals and all the godless ones weren't ruining it for everyone. They want the world to suit their fantasies.

    "I'm not a Kindergarten Cop, I'm a Terminator." - kos

    by cjenk415 on Wed Mar 27, 2013 at 12:15:33 PM PDT

    •  This. (13+ / 0-)

      Very few families look like this.  These are individual models brought together to create a pretend family.

      This is a major problem with Facebook. What people post often doesn't reflect actual reality.

      Kids wear braces. Some have acne. Some have bad hair cuts. Parents might be overweight (often the kids are too).  Their teeth may be crooked, or yellowed. Someone may have a disability. Another may be less than perfectly attractive.  There's always someone who isn't smiling at exactly the right time -- perhaps because he has ADHD and can barely sit still;  or a smile is strained and  fake-looking -- perhaps because the sitting is running long and she was supposed to be at her friend's house 20 minutes ago, or because he had a terrible day at work.

      But real families are real. That's why we love them.

      This family is as real as the 1950s TV show families.

      To hold it up as any sort of standard just shows how shallow these people who post and share it really are.

      © grover


      So if you get hit by a bus tonight, would you be satisfied with how you spent today, your last day on earth? Live like tomorrow is never guaranteed, because it's not. -- Me.

      by grover on Wed Mar 27, 2013 at 12:37:13 PM PDT

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      •  You have a point, but.. (6+ / 0-)

        I have a number of FB friends/associates/relatives who do in fact resemble such "idealized" families; even when seen in person.

        "No one life is more important than another. No one voice is more valid than another. Each life is a treasure. Each voice deserves to be heard." Patriot Daily News Clearinghouse & Onomastic

        by Catte Nappe on Wed Mar 27, 2013 at 01:23:29 PM PDT

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        •  Oh, I do too. (6+ / 0-)

          Heh, I was just talking to a sibling  of one of them. The gushing about their "happily ever after" family life was betrayed by what she told me: screaming matches that last for days, so the (very attractive) teenage children often stay at their friends' home for days on end.

          The picture-perfect family is once again betrayed by reality.

          I should have been clearer. What looks "beautiful" on FB often isn't. Of course I have some perfectly normal friends who also happen to be attractive (so their kids are too).

          But they're the ones usually posting funny stories about how goofy their lives are.

          I'm very skeptical of "beautiful" people. I'm not a fan of the constant complainers and victims, but FB has lots of people who seem to spend much of their time in spin.

          © grover


          So if you get hit by a bus tonight, would you be satisfied with how you spent today, your last day on earth? Live like tomorrow is never guaranteed, because it's not. -- Me.

          by grover on Wed Mar 27, 2013 at 04:07:16 PM PDT

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      •  My sister in law's family looks like this (2+ / 0-)
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        All blonde.  Perfect hair, perfect teeth (okay, the oldest daughter is now in braces.)  Mom used to be a jeans model.  Daddy runs for a hobby and everyone is tall and rail thin.

        What lies behind that picture is that Mom caught Dad sexting one of his coworkers - and since he's a school principal, the subsequent scandal cost him his job.  Mom and Dad are a few blinks away from divorce.  The kids are scared because they don't know what's going to happen to them, but they smile and pretend everyone is all right for the family photo anyway.

        Even white bread America has some nasty secrets behind the glossy photos.

        The Cake is a lie. In Pie there is Truth. ~ Fordmandalay

        by catwho on Thu Mar 28, 2013 at 12:36:16 PM PDT

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