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  •  I feel like a veil has been lifted (3+ / 0-)

    and a whole new perspective has been handed me.

    Excellent diary, Denise; thank you! I have to commend PM Gillard for giving a detailed and ACTUAL apology. One that acknowledges the harm, asks for forgiveness, and offers amends that are meaningful to those harmed. Those kinds of apologies are rare from most of us, let alone a government.

    I'll offer a different viewpoint.  I am now wondering about my own adoption at two months of age that occurred in Kansas in the late 50s. I have always known I was adopted and the circumstances were always presented as a loving gift from my birth mother to me and my (adoptive) family which was gratefully received because mom and dad were unable to have children on their own.

    My favorite book as a 2- or 3-yo was a gray-bound book with gray and orange illustrations, provided by the Kansas Service Children's League, and was all about mommy and daddy meeting me at the adoption agency and getting to bring me home.

    There were baby showers and photographs and cards of well-wishes to me and my folks from family, friends, church members coworkers, etc., the normal stuff a new baby engenders and the evidence of which I have saved in a box. In addition to my brother who was also adopted, I knew a number of kids in school who were also adopted. None of us, to my knowledge, were taunted or ridiculed by other classmates.

    I know my name of origin, some background information on educational levels, health, height/weight, etc. of both parents.  I also know that Kansas' adoption records are available.  Of course, having health information could be invaluable.  And I've always had the notion that if I ever met either of my birth parents, I'd want to give them my heartfelt thanks, but quite frankly, aside from a brief period in the mid-70s during my high school days when it seemed like every other ABC Movie of the Week centered on finding one's roots, I've never had anything more than a mild curiosity about those roots.

    I'm still not sure, even after this diary, that I have more than a mild curiosity on my own behalf, but in case my birth mom (and dad) experienced anything similar to what has been described herein, I think I am perhaps more interested in letting them know that their suffering wasn't in vain and that I do recognize and appreciate the sacrifice, voluntary or not.

    And I do very much appreciate the opportunity to have a new perspective about a time and circumstances in my own life and era that I've been completely unaware of up until now. Looking forward to the rest of this series.

    The modern conservative is engaged in one of man's oldest exercises in moral philosophy; that is, the search for a superior moral justification for selfishness. -- John Kenneth Galbraith

    by scarlet slipper on Sun Mar 31, 2013 at 02:29:42 PM PDT

    •  Thank you so much for sharing your (2+ / 0-)
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      story!  Two members of my family are adopted - and for them it has been a positive experience.  I also have friends who have adopted - one has contact with the birth mother -others do not.

      I think the important issue is that for those who want to know - that it should be a possibility - and in the case of moms who were coerced - they should have amends made.

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      by Denise Oliver Velez on Sun Mar 31, 2013 at 03:20:59 PM PDT

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      •  Agreed. (1+ / 0-)
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        I have to say I am rather aghast at my obliviousness to this issue.  So again, thanks so much for the education.

        The modern conservative is engaged in one of man's oldest exercises in moral philosophy; that is, the search for a superior moral justification for selfishness. -- John Kenneth Galbraith

        by scarlet slipper on Sun Mar 31, 2013 at 06:03:56 PM PDT

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