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  •  It is unlikely that talking with many of them (4+ / 0-)
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    will result in a change, certainly not at the time. Based on my own experience in the civil rights movement and LGBT, plus understanding a lot about how the mind works, I think that when someone has the time and does it well, the effects include:

    Maintaining a consistent message to counter the con talking points. As has been pointed out, many of these conservatives also have small government and other positions that DOMA violates. Stewart did a great job last night pointing out that Edith Windsor's standing comes from having to pay the 'death tax' - which conservatives hate.

    If it is a public 'discussion' especially, others with more open minds may be paying attention. A lot of people have fairly superficial opinions because they have just been tuning the arguments out. More of them are starting to listen. They are learning some of the stats, what "It gets better" is and why. Repetition helps significantly here. When they hear our consistent message enough, it starts to wear down the talking point garbage. The increasing acceptance also helps those who have been afraid of reprisals if they spoke up.

    The person receiving the information with complete disagreement may quote it to friends with disgust, not considering that some of them, or someone listening, will hear the arguments again and change their position - if only a few degrees.

    This is especially important for those who can do it without undue stress. We who do not have devastating personal experiences with bullying, discrimination, etc. that could be triggered from trying to engage in these discussions, are probably more able to do so effectively because we aren't getting mass stress hormones from advocating. The battle of winning hearts and minds is understanding a basic concept.

    He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it. He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it.
    Martin Luther King, Jr..

    Meanwhile, those who have been through that dark valley may make a much better argument with any version of the Jay Z brush off. ;)

    "People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed; never throw out anyone. " Audrey Hepburn "A Beautiful Woman"

    by Ginny in CO on Fri Mar 29, 2013 at 04:37:33 PM PDT

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