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  •  And happy Easter to you, Eowyn9 (8+ / 0-)

    In Jewish tradition, we bring the dead to life when we remember them.  This is why we say kaddish for 11 months, every day, after a person has died, and on the anniversary of the death thereafter.  Every time we recite kaddish, we bring that person back to life.  

    My mother died 16 years ago tomorrow, and as I was an only child without a father, I have thought of her every day since the day she died.  In this way, I keep my mother alive.

    "We have always known that heedless self-interest was bad morals, now we know that it is bad economics." Franklin Delano Roosevelt, Jan. 20, 1937

    by Navy Vet Terp on Sun Mar 31, 2013 at 02:31:45 PM PDT

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    •  Beautiful tradition, and one perhaps that (5+ / 0-)

      is more healthy than the Christian tendency to say "God wanted another angel in heaven" or "God decided to take him to heaven" or even "Don't worry, she's in a better place now." (All of which carries an implication of "You need to get over it" and "It's time to get on with your life.")

      No matter how strong a person's faith there is no certainty, death is always a shock and it is natural, and healthy, to mourn for and commemorate the newly departed.

      "We are stardust, we are golden, and we've got to get ourselves back to the garden." (Joni Mitchell)

      by Eowyn9 on Sun Mar 31, 2013 at 06:01:02 PM PDT

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      •  Even as a Christian, (1+ / 0-)
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        I loathe those platitudes.  I personally recite (well, read, honestly, since my memory is bunk nowadays) kaddish for the fallen.

        I also recite kaddish for our fallen heroes in Bush II's ill-conceived Imperial Wars.  Each time a report comes in reporting on another patriot fallen, I take a moment to recite kaddish.  Granted, I break with Jewish tradition, in that I only do it once, but the thought and hope are there.  If I did the full ritual, I'd never get anything done, sadly.

        "Never argue with an idiot. They will drag you down to their level, and beat you with experience every time." --Unknown

        by Subwoofer of the House on Mon Apr 01, 2013 at 01:32:32 PM PDT

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        •  My own ritual is to say the beginning of the (0+ / 0-)

          Catholic mass for the dead (requiem):

          "Requiem æternam dona eis, Domine,
          et lux perpetua luceat eis."

          Grant them eternal rest, O Lord, and may perpetual light shine on them.)

          Even if I'm around other people and I need to whisper it or say it under my breath, I say it.

          In the Matched dystopia series, one of the main characters recites two lines from Tennyson's Crossing The Bar whenever he sees someone die (a frequent occurrence in the second book.) A very poignant touch and a beautiful way to remember those who have "passed on".

          "We are stardust, we are golden, and we've got to get ourselves back to the garden." (Joni Mitchell)

          by Eowyn9 on Mon Apr 01, 2013 at 04:34:59 PM PDT

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