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  •  It Feels Like Forever & Just a Moment Ago (4+ / 0-)

    I read this entry while at work (bad idea) and here I sit, tears in my eyes: For you, for myself and perhaps mostly for another widow, my Mom. I can only imagine what you and she feel. My Mother is stoic, going through the emotions and motions - and it's a year and a half and I know, from her little oblique hints, she still hurts, bad...and she will until she doesn't.

    Thank you for opening up and I'll probably be a participant in The Grieving Room from now on, goodness knows, I need to.

    I hope you find peace somehow; "the widow" will continue to grieve and to hell with the world that will tell you when it's time to stop and the people who don't understand.

    PS - I inherited my Dad's car, a Jeep, and I feel like a sneaky teenaged thief every time I get in the thing, much like you describe. It still rocks me a year and a half later.

    •  I am so sorry for you loss, and for your mother's. (4+ / 0-)
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      LSophia, Brecht, ladybug53, Randomfactor

      Please join us; it does help to write about grief. Each time I do, the load feels a little lighter.

      I feel for you mom. We don't want to burden those we love who are already grieving, sometimes the oblique hints are all we can allow ourselves.

      I used humor with Gail. I explained, in answer to her questions, that my grief was cyclical. One day I would wake up, go about my business and be fine. The next day might be a little worse, kind of so-so. But the THIRD DAY, that one really sucked.

      It has become shorthand between us now. She knows what I mean when I say that today is a third day. She has third days herself, between losing the father she adored and losing her mobility (her dad used to say she never learned to walk, only to run).

      We must not confuse dissent with disloyalty - Edward R. Murrow

      by Susan Grigsby on Tue Apr 09, 2013 at 01:55:36 PM PDT

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