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  •  Keep Telling Yourself That Your Abuse Was (1+ / 0-)
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    Sir Roderick

    Necessary to achieve that.

    You're obviously very defensive about it because you need to believe you were correct in doing so. You need to justify your behavior, I get it. Even murderers have justifications for their behavior.

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    by Beetwasher on Thu Apr 04, 2013 at 12:29:21 PM PDT

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    •  how would you have taught her that (1+ / 0-)
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      Batya the Toon

      dangerous situations were dangerous?  At two?

      I did honestly feel it was necessary.  Rationally necessary.  I stopped it as soon as I felt I had an alternative.

      If I had some emotional need to beat my children, wouldn't I have continued to spank her and also spank her sister?

      •  I Would Speak Firmly To Her About The Danger (0+ / 0-)

        I would explain it to her, simply.  2 year olds can understand these things on a simple verbal level, but also on an emotional, non-verbal level. They can understand mommy is upset. I would keep a closer eye on her. If she continued to exhibit dangerous behavior like running into traffic, I would do everything to keep her away from situations that would put her near traffic when she wasn't constantly supervised. I would keep her in a play pen, behind a gate etc.  It is your responsibility to watch your kids. 2 year olds don't know traffic is dangerous, and hitting them is no way to effectively teach them. It's the easy way to get what you want, but it's not the effective way.

        If I had some emotional need to beat my children, wouldn't I have continued to spank her and also spank her sister?
        Nope, not necessarily. Not at all. In fact, it's not unusual for abuse to be heaped upon one child and not another. It's called scapegoating, and it's a fairly common dynamic in abusive situations.

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        by Beetwasher on Thu Apr 04, 2013 at 12:53:41 PM PDT

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        •  you don't think I TRIED that sort of thing? (0+ / 0-)

          Christ, I'm not a moron.

          I went beyond keeping her in a playpen, I had her STRAPPED TO MY BODY for much of the time.  She could CLIMB OUT OF PLAYPENS.

          •  You Keep Trying (0+ / 0-)

            You decided to take the easy way out and hit her.

            Her getting away and being in danger was emotional turmoil for you, correct? But you claim there was no emotion behind your response, which was to hit her?

            How does that work? Are you Spock?

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            by Beetwasher on Thu Apr 04, 2013 at 01:01:00 PM PDT

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