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  •  I'm worried about my parents (18+ / 0-)

    Mum took a header into the floor last night - tripped over something the cats knocked over trying to get to the loo.

    Busted up her nose, 2 black eyes - and she's tired and dizzy now every time she stands up.  Won't go to the doctor - says she's fine etc., etc..  She's been painting and playing computer games, watching her shows today- so she is probably ok - but it worries me she seems to not get around like she did just a couple months ago when I arrived.

    Col CatLady has taken to singing weird little songs to himself over and over.  He smells like old crackers and cat pee.  He just had his 69th birthday - and I wonder how many more will he have?  He's not scooping the boxes daily anymore and getting up later and later to feed his children - so something is not right.  He insists he's fine too - then sings another weird little song to himself.

    I broke a tooth today eating a piece of pizza.  All of my teeth have hairline cracks from chewing ice as a kid - and this one had a filling in it when I was 8.  I have an appointment at the cheapo dentist Thursday, but I just had it repaired not two weeks ago when the piece split off eating a potsticker - I swallowed the chunk of tooth then - and the repair tonight - so much for the stuff with the blue light being sturdy.  It's not sharp or terribly painful, I just wonder how much it's going to cost my parents to fix since I have no dental insurance.

    And we sail and we sail and we never see land, just the rum in the bottle and a pipe in my hand...

    by Mortifyd on Sat Apr 06, 2013 at 06:23:14 PM PDT

    •  sorry about your tooth! (13+ / 0-)

      I lose pieces of mine all the time, but then I have 'albuterol teeth', the asthma med eats away the enamel until the tooth dies and falls apart. I hope the dentist can fix it for you and that it stays mostly painless in the interim.

      As for your mom, she may be falling victim to her own machinations. There is such a thing as if you don't use it you lose it, and since she's been leaving all the cleaning for you and isn't doing it herself any longer she may be losing some mobility due to sitting more. Housework is exercise and if she's not replacing that with some other form of exercise at her age, she's going to lose muscle mass and tone. I do hope she's ok, though despite the fall.

      I don't know what to tell you with your dad. Maybe he's coming down with something? There are a lot of sinus issues and such going around and those can sneak up on you and make you more lethargic etc.

      "Madness! Total and complete madness! This never would've happened if the humans hadn't started fighting one another!" Londo Mollari

      by FloridaSNMOM on Sat Apr 06, 2013 at 06:44:43 PM PDT

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      •  It was kind of a big piece (13+ / 0-)

        if it had been a little one I wouldn't worry about it so much - but 1/4 of a molar gone is a bit of a surprise in the middle of a meal.  I have been using my inhaler more in the last couple of years - funny no one mentioned to me that was a side effect.  Super!

        She had a fender bender yesterday as well - nothing big, but still.  Two days in a row she's just not doing so hot.  It may be she's distracted by this new painting contract - or it could be she's just not really feeling well and won't tell anyone.  She's doing acrylic pieces for a local gallery and kind of doesn't like it very much.  I'm still doing most (all) of the day to day cleaning around the kitchen area - that's where the Doctor Who tv is.

        I asked her to go walk with me today but she wasn't up to it - I got put on yet another new med and I swear I can feel myself getting fatter.  So I've decided to start walking every day in addition to my TKD class to keep the pounds under control.  I call it "endurance building for running with the Doctor." :D

        I think my Dad has some kind of Alzheimers or dementia frankly.  He is glued to FOX all day, makes no sense half the time and it runs in his family.  But he is certain of course that there is nothing wrong with him and he makes perfect sense - but he doesn't.  And the smell is strange because he does bathe daily - but he still smells like old crackers - kind of like his father did who had Alzheimers.

        And we sail and we sail and we never see land, just the rum in the bottle and a pipe in my hand...

        by Mortifyd on Sat Apr 06, 2013 at 06:55:58 PM PDT

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        •  Your mom should see a doctor. People, especially (12+ / 0-)

          older people, often do not recognize deficits, and falls are very damaging to old people.

          You dad sounds like the wrappings are coming loose also. Can you make a phone call to their doctor, or minister or someone to whom they would pay attention?

          Someone you respect, also?

          Talk to a pharmacist about your meds and side effects. Although going for walks shouldn't be harmful anyway.

          *Are we humans or are we dancers?* Annie Lennox (thx Words In Action & OPOL)

          by glorificus on Sat Apr 06, 2013 at 07:13:54 PM PDT

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          •  Mum's only 65 (10+ / 0-)

            and she's pretty active generally - just not in the housework department.  Gardens, works part time, paints, helps her Mum with shopping and things around the house, etc.  She might just be having a couple bad days in a row - it does happen.  They just aren't usually so impact oriented.

            Dad is losing it.  12 cats, turning the bathtub of my brother's old bathroom into a giant litter box - and of course the FOX addiction doesn't help.  All he talks about is weird shit, frankly.  I was really shocked when I came home and saw how he was day to day.

            They don't do religion, I definitely do not have permission to speak to their medical providers - or know who they are - they handle their own appointments - well Mum handles them.  She doesn't want to deal with the possibility he's going senile, so she just ignores it - that is her coping mechanism for most things she doesn't want to deal with.  She fully expects to outlive him - and he's been exposed to so much Agent Orange and the like - even he doesn't expect another ten years.  They are going to Scotland this year because he worries he might bot make it otherwise and it's on his bucket list.

            But he forgets things ALL the time you just told him, wanders off in pointless Vietnam stories and the weird little songs - all the time.  When I was at the dentist a week ago they needed an income statement that they are currently supporting me and asked him into the office - and he sang one in the office - told a Vietnam story and clearly had missed the OK, sir, you can go back out to the waiting room signs from the paperwork lady.

            I don't have a pharmacist, I get the meds at the local mental health clinic and asking questions is pretty useless - but I was warned this last one could make me pack on the pounds by the doctor who wrote the script.  It's just a really weird sensation - like I can feel the fat growing.  So I did a couple miles today and will slowly add onto that until it gets too hot for me to be outside.  We eat balanced meals, but I have my Mum's crap metabolism and tend to pack on pounds easier than some - I'm not grossly overweight, just a bit chubby - 36ish waist and a flabby tum.

            And we sail and we sail and we never see land, just the rum in the bottle and a pipe in my hand...

            by Mortifyd on Sat Apr 06, 2013 at 07:29:07 PM PDT

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            •  Take the name of the med, go to Walgreens or (7+ / 0-)

              CVS or Target or Walgreens and ask to speak to the pharmacist. My sister is a pharmacist for Walgreens - they know medications and are able to answer questions about them.

              The Phm may need to know what medical reason you are taking the drug, but they are bound under medical ethics rules, HIPPA and confidentiality to keep it to themselves.

              And if the Phm breeches that, CONGRATS!!! You will get a big check after suing them and the chain they work for.

              Yes, your parents sound in not good shape. If your mom was concussed she may be worse off than she thinks.

              Do they have a lawyer? Can that person be helpful?

              Also, there are exercise channels, I don't know if your folks have that cable package, though.

              *Are we humans or are we dancers?* Annie Lennox (thx Words In Action & OPOL)

              by glorificus on Sat Apr 06, 2013 at 08:02:41 PM PDT

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              •  no lawyer - they are FOXbots and not that rich (8+ / 0-)

                so they don't trust no stinking lawyers.  

                I think we have a Walgreens not far from here, I can check it out there.

                If she's still dragging tomorrow I will make her call her doctor at least.

                I definitely am not going to try and fight for the remote from Col CatLady - I'd rather walk and daydream about the TARDIS showing up.  Tae kwon do starts back on Tuesday - that will work off plenty of it for sure as well as a daily couple miles.  

                Like I said, we eat pretty healthy - and the medication seems to work well for the reason I take it - I'm trying to be proactive about combating the potential expanding waistline. A lot of drugs in that class do that to people and I've been massive before - DO NOT WANT ever again.

                And we sail and we sail and we never see land, just the rum in the bottle and a pipe in my hand...

                by Mortifyd on Sat Apr 06, 2013 at 08:08:42 PM PDT

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        •  Is your dad eating ok? (10+ / 0-)

          There are some nutritional deficits that can mimic Alzheimer's but the onset is a LOT faster. I can't recall off the top of my head which ones unfortunately I'll have to look it up and see if I can find it.

          No one told me about the inhalers causing that either. I went to school with a dental tech, and SHE told me about it. She also asked the Orthodontist she worked with if there was anything that could be done about it. His answer: have them all pulled and get false teeth. Calcium supplements and a tooth paste that advertises as 'protecting enamel" has seemed to slow it down a bit. I get almost clear patches on my teeth, where the color and texture is different and I know that's the next one to go.

          Did she have the accident before or after the fall? Could she have a minor concussion maybe?

          "Madness! Total and complete madness! This never would've happened if the humans hadn't started fighting one another!" Londo Mollari

          by FloridaSNMOM on Sat Apr 06, 2013 at 07:17:08 PM PDT

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          •  Ok, found it.. (10+ / 0-)

            Severe , severe B-1, B-6, and B-12 deficiences, niacin deficients and folic acid deficiencies (which is says are more common in alcoholics). UTI's can also cause similar symptoms in some cases. Also, there is "Alcohol Dementia". Several of these are treatable and reversible. If you can talk him into going to a doctor for any reason, and the doctor runs blood work, you may be able to rule out Alzheimer's entirely.

            "Madness! Total and complete madness! This never would've happened if the humans hadn't started fighting one another!" Londo Mollari

            by FloridaSNMOM on Sat Apr 06, 2013 at 07:23:41 PM PDT

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          •  we eat very healthy (7+ / 0-)

            Mum is good on that - lots of veg and salads and balanced meals.  He is an alcoholic but is back on the low alcohol beer and only has 2 to 3 a night, he's backed off the full brew tall boys because he was becoming belligerent and mean again and Mum put a stop to it.

            I use a good toothpaste and mouthwash daily - and I only use the inhaler when I need it - like class when he really pushes us.  In my case I suspect that the problem is really just fallout from poor dental hygiene while living on the boat and being improperly and under medicated - I have the kind of teeth dentists point to as "awesome teeth" but didn't take care of them for a while because I couldn't take care of anything for a while.

            She had the accident Friday morning - there's not even a real scratch on the car but it scared her pretty bad - and then tripped early Saturday morning, probably 3 or 4 am.  She doesn't have true depth vision, only one eye really works - and she was trying not to wake up Dad and left the lights off.  She doesn't have any whiplash or soreness from the car accident, just a banged up face and dizziness from the fall.  Pupils are fine, no headache, no wanting to nap.

            And we sail and we sail and we never see land, just the rum in the bottle and a pipe in my hand...

            by Mortifyd on Sat Apr 06, 2013 at 07:37:22 PM PDT

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            •  I didn't mean to imply (5+ / 0-)

              that your parents weren't eating healthy meals, but how much has he actually been eating? Has his appetite slacked off for one reason or another? Sometimes it's a cycle, the appetite slips, then the nutrition slips, which increases agitation and dementia type symptoms, and the appetite slips further. It's often not about what is served, but rather what is actually ingested. And often it starts with either depression or a temporary illness, like the flu.

              "Madness! Total and complete madness! This never would've happened if the humans hadn't started fighting one another!" Londo Mollari

              by FloridaSNMOM on Sat Apr 06, 2013 at 09:42:58 PM PDT

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              •  oh, he eats (3+ / 0-)
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                While we don't eat at the table together, we do have pretty set mealtimes and he cleans his plate - Mum and Dad eat in front of the FOX.

                Mum makes breakfast for them every morning, he also has second breakfast after he goes to the gym or putters outside - usually a commercial breakfast sandwich.  He doesn't do lunch so much as an afternoon "snack" - half a sandwich and chips - and we all have dinner every night at 5:30.

                Physically he's in good health - works out, washes the cars by hand, does the yard work, still at his Army weight and a 34 waist - he's just losing it upstairs.  I heard him singing his weird little songs to the cats this morning as usual.

                And we sail and we sail and we never see land, just the rum in the bottle and a pipe in my hand...

                by Mortifyd on Sun Apr 07, 2013 at 05:38:21 AM PDT

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