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  •  I really enjoyed your analysis of Lamott (11+ / 0-)

    I like her a lot - she says honest good things. I thought what you heard her say in her essay was probably true too. It is so easy to say what it is you are looking for and it is also easy for that not to be at all what you are really looking for.

    The worst thing about online dating systems may be spelling out what it is you are looking for - thereby fooling yourself and everyone else. When you meet someone in the real world, your list of what you are looking for does not immediately present - instead you allow a warm up period - as in - I like this person - they look good to me, they made me laugh, I like the feel of their spirit, I'd like to see them again.

    Maybe listing your requirements out eliminates the obvious wrong people but it may eliminate the ones that could also work for you.

    But, what do I know, nothing. I have been married for 38 years now. I do not know what we would think of each other if we just met - we have learned to be as kind as we can be with each other. I think it would be hard to find him again.

    I liked your thoughtful discussion of her experience. I meet women that truly miss the companionship of long term relationships. They do seem to 'have requirements' that I don't have with my man but then, maybe we have already worked some things out - as I say, what do I know.

    Thanks for a nice read on a rainy Sunday afternoon.

    Keep constant watch on your mind. - Dalai Lama

    by redstella on Sun Apr 07, 2013 at 04:06:55 PM PDT

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