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  •  Ouch. That sounds horrible. I'm so sorry. (7+ / 0-)

    Dare I ask how she is doing? Damn these gyno cancers.

    Bad news is hard to get no matter what, you are right. In my case, I was convinced (because I'd heard something in surgery) that things were worse than expected. The onco did tell my husband right away, but not me--and then she asked him not to say anything to me. And then, when I pushed the residents the next day for info, they stalled and wouldn't say anything either. I still shudder when I recall all that mess.

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    by peregrine kate on Mon Apr 08, 2013 at 08:45:38 PM PDT

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    •  Well the cancer was everywhere, so she had a lot (6+ / 0-)

      of surgery and then chemo. I think her numbers are better now (blood markers) but she still has a 50% chance and now a 16 month baby at home.

      She tested positive for the BRCA gene so is having a double masectomy this summer. That's not what I would do but whatever reduces a persons worry is what I think they should do and this does that for her.

      On the show the Big C there was just a big scene where Laura Linney's character (the one with cancer) got pretty pissed at some med students. She slammed ones computer shut and advised him to look patients in the eye and tell them the truth.

      Tracy B Ann - technically that is my signature.

      by ZenTrainer on Mon Apr 08, 2013 at 09:54:22 PM PDT

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      •  I'm glad she's still around. Sounds like a huge (6+ / 0-)

        challenge. I don't know what I'd do in that situation.

        I love Laura Linney as an actress. So smart. I'm actually only one person away from her; I met her step-mother several years ago. Another lovely person.

        Wait--there was a link--oh, puzzled had it in her diary the other day. To a fine (as usual) essay by Atul Gawande called "Letting Go," in which he discusses the difficulties doctors have in facing these realities with patients. Good essay, but I'm gonna have to look up the link tomorrow. In the morning that is.

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        by peregrine kate on Mon Apr 08, 2013 at 10:01:38 PM PDT

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      •  My thoughts with her. (5+ / 0-)

        We have BRCA 2 in my family. My mother died of breast cancer in 1964. We didn't know about the genetic risk until my sister had a 'bad' mammogram. She had a mastectomy, we have both had our ovaries out. So far, now both well into our 50s, we are OK. I struggled with whether to have a prophylactic double mastectomy - decided against it but if I have any, ANYthing on a mammo or MRI then it's goodbye to both the 'girls'.

        You get what you deserve, even if you don't deserve it (Issan Dorsey, Zen teacher)

        by kayak58 on Tue Apr 09, 2013 at 10:10:53 AM PDT

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      •  Here's the link to the Gawande essay. (2+ / 0-)
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        4Freedom, ZenTrainer

        "Letting Go." He writes good stuff.

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        by peregrine kate on Tue Apr 09, 2013 at 12:52:46 PM PDT

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