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  •  when I was married (0+ / 0-)

    I hated the word "wife" and so did the man to whom I used to be married.

    Of course, it may very well have a completely different resonance for those who are legally denied the use of said word.  

    Words can sometimes, in moments of grace, attain the quality of deeds. --Elie Wiesel

    by a gilas girl on Fri Apr 12, 2013 at 08:09:27 AM PDT

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    •  so what did he call you (0+ / 0-)

      when the nurse said you two weren't related and if he didn't leave the hospital room where you lay unconscious she would call security and have him handcuffed and forcibly removed while the brother you grew up with (& who always cut holes in your underwear as a kid) laughed and said, "Don't worry, dude, I'll make sure she gets her medicine." ... did the man to whom you used to be married sputter and say, "You can't do this! I'm the man she lives with!" ... and how did that work out?

      •  He called me by my name... (0+ / 0-)

        and I don't have a brother, so the family power struggles played themselves out differently.  

        But because we were a heterosexual pair and there were no family members from either of us around, the relationship was never questioned.  

        Which is precisely my point, we were able to eschew that language because even before we were married to one another (something we didn't advertise) people assumed we were married.  We often had to correct people about that in the years before we actually had a ceremony.

         

        Words can sometimes, in moments of grace, attain the quality of deeds. --Elie Wiesel

        by a gilas girl on Fri Apr 12, 2013 at 03:34:26 PM PDT

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