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  •  ooooh, I didn't think of that one~! (9+ / 0-)

    The diary might have taken an entirely different shape had I done so.

    I understand that Nova Scotia is divine. My husband's best man has property there and spends as much of the summer there as possible. Since he's a school superintendent, that means a few weeks every year. I hope that we will have a chance to visit him there some time. And I hope that you get to return to your happy place even sooner than that.

    The question about survivors' guilt is an excellent one. I think it deserves its own diary--by you, or by anyone else who is inclined to weigh in.

    It's particularly intense, in my experience, when the person you know has the same type (and stage and grade) of cancer. That was sort of my experience with the Kossack alliedoc, who unfortunately had a recurrence of endometrial cancer almost five years after her original diagnosis. The first time around, the stage was so early that her oncologist advised her that no other treatment besides surgery was necessary. Lo and behold, the cancer roared back and then she was gone within a year of its reappearance.

    Closer to home, I had a choir friend who had a recurrence of endometrial cancer when I was first diagnosed myself. There was something about her, all along, that did not bode well for her long-term survival. I don't know exactly what I was picking up, but I know I wasn't alone in that assessment. (It wasn't merely the "looks healthy" BS; something less tangible.) And indeed, she did die about a year after her own recurrence.

    There are several MNCCers who've had the experience of going through clinical trials and remaining as the last person standing. They might have some additional insights to share.

    But eventually where I've come down is to say to myself that just as cancer is a condition that emerges from within each of us, from the malfunction of our own cells, the trajectory that the condition takes in each of us is as distinctive as we are. Yes, it is possible to aggregate statistics of response and survival, but in the end we are each unique.

    If we knew the answer as to why, we'd be a lot closer to effective treatment.

    May your friends, and you, do better than anyone expects for a long time to come.

    Some DKos series & groups worth your while: Black Kos, Native American Netroots, KosAbility, Monday Night Cancer Club. If you'd like to join the Motor City Kossacks, send me a Kosmail.

    by peregrine kate on Mon Apr 22, 2013 at 05:53:11 PM PDT

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