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  •  There's a lot of good advice for you already (1+ / 0-)
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    Raven in Philly

    but i wanted to add my two cents. The next time he wants to have a "serious discussion", go ahead and say, "sure, let's really have a serious discussion".

    Then, when the course of the conversation goes to you asking him a question that he dismisses, you hit him with:
    "This is why we can't have serious discussions, dad.
    Because you don't take me seriously.
    And dad, everytime that you don't take me seriously is another moment that I lose some respect for you.
    Because you show me that you don't really respect me when you dismiss my questions without giving a reason.
    And I wonder if you really think it's worth my losing respect for you to dismiss what's important to me.
    Because I think your giving yourself a raw deal by trading my respect for your ability to ignore me and my concerns."

    Maybe this will give him something to think on when he muses on his degree of isolation from you and your siblings. That he is alienating you all from his life, just to be "right"; he needs to learn that being happy is much more important than being right. Or, you may need to learn that his miserable "rightness" seeks to drag you down along with him and that longer-term distance and an active abscence is the more useful way for you to proceed and cope with life. As troubling as that possibility may be, I think you know that is a potential outcome here anyway.

    PrezObama's only mistake in the sequester is that he assumed that the Republicans would be more loyal to their oath of office to serve the people than their oath to Norquist to never close tax loopholes.

    by SilentBrook on Thu Apr 25, 2013 at 01:20:45 PM PDT

    •  Hopefully he'd listen (1+ / 0-)
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      SilentBrook

      and not just talk over me. Talking over people is a serious bad habit in our family that I've become more conscious about not doing.

      Our relationship did get better when I moved out. He stopped asking me for money to support the family, for one. I think what my biggest thing to do is to control my own anger. I've gotten a lot better at it, but I could continue to use improvement. All the advice has been pretty helpful and I'm hoping that I can commit it all to memory so the next time he ambushes me with some RW craziness I can use it.

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