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    citisven, Words In Action, raines, Lusty

    I am always reminded of thinking back how village communities live together in some area I saw in rural Africa.

    There is some sharing, but less than we think of in our dreams. Interestingly many women cook or help each other cooking, but there is NO communal kitchen. Every woman has her own kitchen (also clearly separate kitchens for all women in a polygamy marriage). If there needs to be cooking done for a larger event, women just come together and help each other in the kitchen of the house the event is taking place.

    I have participated in that several time and it could be great fun. But the "sharing" of food and who brought what to the event for shared cooking and eating was watched VERY careful and could cause great conflict for years to come, if some hadn't brought what he/she was expected to bring or brought too much.

    Also land was communal land, but each women had her own area that was respected by others. Meat was ordered by the women to be hunted by men, that was then shared and the hunter got paid in form of meat or other edibles he / she needed. Sharing is a delicate thing and not easy to do.

    •  "Sharing is a delicate thing and not easy to do" (2+ / 0-)
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      mimi, Lusty

      It really is, and that's why it's important to not romanticize communal living and recognize our human need for space. I think that's what the people who started the cohousing movement had in mind -- they realized that the communes of the 60s were just a tad too flowery and the hyper communal ideals could really backfire when people are forced too close together. So while the cohousing model is still not everyone's cup of tea and perhaps still too infringing for some people's taste, I think it's about as good an attempt at a balanced approach as there is, short of just a regular neighborhood community that can form organically (but unfortunately most of the time doesn't).

      Ecology is the new Economy

      by citisven on Sun Apr 28, 2013 at 09:51:23 PM PDT

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