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  •  For many years my other half stayed at home (7+ / 0-)

    while I worked and/or went to college. The only reason we're both home now is my lungs' deterioration. If things had gone as planned he'd still be the stay at home dad and I'd be the OTA bringing home the money. He is disabled, he's been on disability since before we met. It only made sense for him to stay home and take care of  the kids. He also did what housework he could do, with compensation for his disability.

    What always tweaked my tail is this: Even though he was the stay at home dad, if anything was out of place in the house, I was always the one blamed. Even if I was at work when it happened!
    For example: The hose came off the washer while I was at work and flooded the kitchen. The landlord went off on ME for it not getting cleaned up fast enough (FloridaSNDad had sopped it up with towels, but the kitchen was carpeted) stopping me while I was on my way to the house from work that day. Like I was going to leave work halfway through my shift to run the carpet shampooer. He never said a word about it to my other half, nm he'd already been to the house.

    My mother and my mother in law were always the same way. One thing out of place, one dish in the sink and they bitched at me about it, even if I was at work when they got there. Like I was supposed to be magic and be in two places at once. Not paying daycare and keeping the kids home was great. Dad did everything he could do. But no matter what our arrangement was, all the housework was my responsibility in everyone else's eyes.

    "Madness! Total and complete madness! This never would've happened if the humans hadn't started fighting one another!" Londo Mollari

    by FloridaSNMOM on Tue Apr 30, 2013 at 03:29:42 PM PDT

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