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  •  I wrote about this before (8+ / 0-)

    A woman I considered my adopted little sister divorced her husband of 20 years last year.  He came out of the closet, which wounded her immensely.  However, she didn't divorce him because he was gay.  She divorced him because he started trying to clean out their joint bank accounts, told her he'd been unfaithful during their marriage, and started bragging on Facebook about his new life with boyfriends, bars, and bears.

    It's tough living in the closet.  I know; although I came out to close friends, a sibling, and the DK community, nobody who doesn't need to know about my orientation knows a damn thing other than that I'm in love and live with a man.  (I'm the third bi woman he's dated.  Go figure.)  From what I've read, it seems that Jason Collins loved Carolyn enough to not want to continue lying to her.  At least he told her before they married and built a life together.  I am deeply sorry for her pain, but I also understand why he tried to create a fiction for himself--especially considering hate crimes against LGBT people are on the rise, and homophobia is still rampant in sports.

    Finally, I'm sorry for anyone who's been in that situation--but the only two people who know what happened have already said their piece.  In this case, outside judgments are probably neither welcome nor necessary.

    Hope is a good thing--maybe the best of things--and no good thing ever dies.

    by Gemina13 on Thu May 02, 2013 at 08:21:46 PM PDT

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    •  Yours is one of the most even handed comments (3+ / 0-)
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      I've read on this thread. Just wanted to say that.

      "Some folks rob you with a six-gun, some rob you with a fountain pen." - Woody Guthrie

      by Involuntary Exile on Thu May 02, 2013 at 11:15:27 PM PDT

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    •  Ditto to what IE says..... (2+ / 0-)
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      In high school my sister dated a guy who was closeted.  She had her suspicions, and one day asked him flat out if he was.  He answered honestly that yes, he was, and they broke up.

      I'm not sure if that contributed to it -- I go back and forth on that, given the time lag -- but she had to seek counseling in her freshman year for an eating disorder (anorexia/bulemia) that she has (thankfully) fully recovered from.  She's married now, with a son, and quite happy.

      I have long since -- this happened in the late '70s -- gotten to know many gay people, one of whom is my best friend, and know that coming out, while a bit easier than it was back then, is still fraught with some little anxiety.

      I always did wonder what happened to the guy she dated.  My having met a number of open gay people since then leads me to say I can only hope he too is happily sharing his life with someone special to him.  

      Is it courageous to propose tax cuts but not identify a single tax expenditure to rein in? Is it courageous to target your deepest cuts on the poorest Americans, who vote in lower numbers and provide little in campaign contributions?

      by caul on Fri May 03, 2013 at 01:59:23 AM PDT

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