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  •  Grinnell '95 here (4+ / 0-)

    And it's really sad how unsurprising I find that. In my day, there was a prevailing sense that the whole place was hypersensitive re: sexism and rape and a guy would be guilty until proven innocent and blah blah blah...but there was also a pervasive (and really meanspirited) joke that the women were the world's ugliest. Couldn't ask for a more vivid example of male privilege at a place where so many imagined the guys were the oppressed ones.

    Certaines personnes disent qu'il y a une femme à blâmer, Mais je sais que c'est ma faute sacrément.

    by RamblinDave on Thu May 02, 2013 at 11:32:15 PM PDT

    •  the oppressor is alway cast as the oppressed (2+ / 0-)
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      For example, some KKK leaders allege the NAACP is the true racist organization while the KKK is merely racial.  Their proof is that the NAACP is allowed to use the word "colored" while KKK members are condemned when they use the same term.

      Of course, all you hear are crickets when you ask how many people have been lynched by the NAACP?  

    •  I saw a similar dynamic in my time there (1+ / 0-)
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      This often but not always unspoken belief that all it took was to whisper a guy's name and the word rape and the whole machinery of the college would spring into action and he'd be guilty until proven innocent and even then he wasn't really innocent . . . but it never actually happenend.  

      I know intellectually that lots of peopel at Grinnell were hooking up and I know there's no way all of it was consensual but I don't recall hearing much talk about sexual assault in the time I was at Grinnell.  We had safe sex study breaks that discussed consent and contraception and while they were good, I can't imagine they were 100% effective.

      I also remember friends who grew up in cities assuming because Grinnell is a small town it's completely safe.  Female friends of mine would walk into town at night without a moment's hestitation.  Another female friend, in four years, never once locked her dorm room.  I think we were incredibly lucky that more bad things didn't happen.

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