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  •  Hi to you. Yes, I've met a ton of birth mothers (1+ / 0-)
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    Diana in NoVa

    who became pregnant the first time. Many were even technically virgins.

    But when I was young no one told me this stuff. It is a problem when we grow up being told nothing. My parents didn't want to know anything about me so I would just be theirs and therefore they could not answer any of my questions. Wrong way to go.

    •  It's hell for adoptees, keuka77 (1+ / 0-)
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      No adoption should take place without the birth parents' complete medical history being recorded, going all the way back to the grandparents.  Each  original mother should be allowed to write a letter to her child, telling her or him why she was forced to relinquish. The original mother should write about her hopes for her child, and about things she likes to do--music, painting, horseback riding, or whatever her hobby happens to be. The letter could be given to the adoptee when he or she reaches the age of 18.  It would be kinder than the past system.

      I was lucky.  My uncle and aunt, who lived in another state, adopted my daughter.  But they never told her who I was until she was 28 and on the verge of marriage. She demanded to know more about me, so they finally told her.

      It's awful for adoptees who have to wonder about these things all their lives unless they find their birth parents.

      "Religion is what keeps the poor from murdering the rich."--Napoleon

      by Diana in NoVa on Tue May 07, 2013 at 04:54:46 PM PDT

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