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  •  We don't talk about suicide. (11+ / 0-)

    But we should.  

    I am very close to someone who was recently very traumatically left behind by a suicide.  She needs support, not to be shunned.  She said one of the things that people say is, "You have to move on with life."  Well, what do they think she's doing?  She's waking up every day, putting one foot in front of the other.  That's what she's doing and it's taking everything she's got just to do that right now.  She is getting counseling, because it is available by the generosity of others.  We need as a society to support the loved ones who are left behind, as well as do everything we can to prevent suicide in the first place.

    And that starts by being able to talk about it.  Thank you for this.  I look forward to reading future diaries.

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    by politik on Wed May 08, 2013 at 10:48:30 AM PDT

    •  That's what has kept me here (4+ / 0-)

      during times of darkest depression when life felt unbearable, the thought of traumatizing my loved ones with my suicide was more unbearable. That's not a legacy that I want to leave my son, daughter, grandkids.

      Is your friend really being shunned, or is it possible that many people just don't know how to support her?

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      by SoCalSal on Wed May 08, 2013 at 11:08:32 AM PDT

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      •  It's the general problem of people not (1+ / 0-)
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        knowing what to say or do in support.  Understandably it makes people uncomfortable and they end up not saying anything.  Not calling.  Not going to visit.  The result is isolation for the person left behind at a time they desperately need support.  

        None of us mean to shun the person, but that is the effective result.

        That's why we need to talk more generally: so that we are prepared to be there when we have a specific need to be.

        The person left behind often feels villified as well, when people who might mean well ask questions or make statements insinuating that the person somehow contributed to the choice for suicide or should have seen signs and done more to prevent it.

        In general, we have a lot of work to do as a society to educate ourselves, help to remove the stigma associated with suicide, as well as learn what we can do in terms of suicide prevention.

        "Maintaining a robust public health infrastructure will be critical to managing the potential health impacts of climate change." NCADAC Draft Climate Assessment Report January 11, 2013

        by politik on Wed May 08, 2013 at 04:55:40 PM PDT

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