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  •  There is no way to avoid rape. (1+ / 0-)
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    FloridaSNMOM

    That is placing the onus on the victim while rapists continue to predate.

    •  Not blaming the victim. (0+ / 0-)

      I disagree with your blanket statement that there is no way to avoid being raped. There is no way for anyone to be completely immune from being raped, and the victim shoud not be blamed. There are ways to reduce the risk, however, such as avoiding dangerous situations and self-defense training. There are also people who avoided being raped by doing or saying just the right thing at the right moment.

      I am not saying that rape is preventable in all cases, only that the military should provide information and training on how to be as safe as possible, AND on unacceptable behavior. The military should also provide methods for victims of rape or any form of sexual harrassment to report this without repercussions.  Additionally, rapists should be prosecuted, and generals should not be able to overturn convictions.

      •  Thanks so much! (1+ / 0-)
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        Horace Boothroyd III

        So I shouldn't have taken my prescribed medications after telling my then-husband that I didn't want to have sex...but he believed that marriage was an automatic 'yes', so he went ahead anyway, even though I said no.

        My meds made it so that I was physically unable to resist, and he knew it.

        But thanks! I should have just not taken my meds, not slept at all (because he'd rape me in my sleep, too),

        Fuck it. Never mind. Does'nt matter. Why the fuck should it mattter. You'll just say that I should have left. never mind that I had no family, no where to go, disabled, two toddlers... nope, it will be my fault. Fuck it.

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        by LoreleiHI on Fri May 10, 2013 at 12:40:35 PM PDT

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    •  Don't feed the feeling of helplessness (0+ / 0-)

      One of the weapons of rapists is depriving the victims of any sense of control over their lives.

      I know one set of self-defense instructors who had a rape survivor in one of their classes. At the end of it she said it had done her more good than all the therapy. The therapy had saved her from self-blame but the class gave her back some confidence and sense of control.

      This is in addition to, not instead of, prosecuting and jailing rapists.

      Freedom isn't free. Patriots pay taxes.

      by Dogs are fuzzy on Fri May 10, 2013 at 01:54:45 PM PDT

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      •  I agree with you. (0+ / 0-)

        I certainly didn't intend to come off as blaming the victim in my previous comments, and I apologize if I did.  I realize that there are situations, probably most rape situations, where people are completely helpless.

        I am not suggesting that, if only rape victims had done something differently, they wouldn't have been raped.  I am also not suggesting that a victim, even one with self defense skills, can count on overpowering a predator, especially not an armed one.

        I was only suggesting that it is beneficial if people are educated in how to avoid situations where they are in danger, and (where possible) learn some self-defense skills. I was also suggesting that in the military, there should be a means of reporting rape and abuse that does not jeopardize one's career.

        I'm not sure how this equates to wanting to keep things as they are.

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