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  •  Agree, stronger without that (9+ / 0-)

    After all, the point is not that OP is offended because of her family story (and tapestry is a beautiful word for it) but b/c the racism is unacceptable.

    Including all the details both exposes the family and makes it personal, instead of a matter of being ethical.

    We can safely abandon the doctrine of the eighties, namely that the rich were not working because they had too little money, the poor because they had too much. JK Galbraith, 1991

    by Urban Owl on Sun May 12, 2013 at 09:03:36 AM PDT

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    •  I appreciate this viewpoint, but after (6+ / 0-)

      considering it, I think I disagree.  I think the emotional aspect of it carries more impact than a dry "this is wrong".  Besides which it serves as a reminder that he can't judge white people by their color either; he'll never have any idea what their circumstances are.

      I know it won't make him less racist; I'm just hoping it will make him more circumspect in voicing his racism.

      "If you trust you are not critical; if you are critical you do not trust" by our own Dauphin

      by gustynpip on Sun May 12, 2013 at 09:33:51 AM PDT

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      •  It might make him fired. (2+ / 0-)
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        Which brings with it a potential for a response which I would think you would not want to expose your family to - or anyone else for that matter.

        For some reason, I've always been one of those people that people tell secrets to.  It happens on a multitude of fronts, but many of my most remarkable stories involve racists who look at me and think that I'm their natural ally.  Over the years I've gone from more lengthy and reasoned responses to these people to basically saying they are full of shit - end of story.  

        In that simple and direct exchange I manage to challenge to the core the basis of racism which is that where people look at someone and judge their character entirely based on skin color and appearance.  It is unnerving for them and I rather enjoy watching the looks on their faces when their assumptions about what I might believe based on my appearance alone are completely upended.  

        Anyway, I understand your POV as at one time I basically held the same view.  I've just got no patience for racism and racists when they come into my realm - and I don't think that I can teach people who don't like people for no good reason how to like people - but I do think that the one thing I can do is undermine their unfailing belief that one can judge a book by its cover.  

        Still, my family lives in a part of this country where people still burn crosses on other people's front lawns.  Because of that I am careful to make these battles mine and mine alone - not because my family would not come to my aid or because they don't hold the same views that I do, but because they should not be exposed to victimization because I chose to take a stand.  Eight out of ten of the racists I've come across are mindless cowards who wouldn't ever do anything except for talk shit.  The two out of ten who are aggressive don't deter me, but I do make an effort to understand which type I'm dealing with.

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