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  •  It's heartbreaking enough to be at the point (13+ / 0-)

    where you realize no, you really can't take care of your beloved mom or dad any longer, that the safest and best place for them is somewhere that has the skilled staff and equipment they need.  Dear Lord, the desperation, the guilt, the feeling of being inadequate as a caretaker & provider, are toxic enough --- and I had two wonderful, loving, caring brothers who made and supported the decisions for my mom's care with me...

    And then it sinks in that this care will cost us upwards of $105,000 a year, for who knows how many more years -- my mom may have Alzheimer's but she has the cardiovascular system of a 25yr old.   Without Medicaid, her last years would be so much worse --- for her mostly, but for us, too.  Keeping her in the home would wipe out any savings (or hopes of saving) for all 3 of us kids.  So, when we lose our jobs ('cause we sure wouldn't be able to retire) or get Alzheimer's or xxxxx, where would we turn?  

    Medicaid for nursing home care is a critical link in keeping working class families from sinking into poverty across generations.  I don't care that all of mom&dad's savings and the house went to pay for the nursing home, but it wasn't enough .  What the three of us kids have together won't be enough just for our mom.  We love our parents and are not going to abandon them, so to have a financial backstop like Medicaid coverage is crucial.

    thanks for listening, mdmslle.  I know you're in the fight too, and I thank you again for that.  Blessings for your stepmom and her caregivers, and you.  

    Comfort the afflicted. Afflict the comfortable.

    by FindingMyVoice on Sat May 25, 2013 at 06:14:57 AM PDT

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