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  •  I feel like whining. (1+ / 0-)
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    Joy of Fishes

    Your post resonated with me today on a number of levels.  First of all: it's my sister-in-law's birthday. I love her. Normally I would send something to her to post on her Facebook page. We don't exchange gifts, but we do exchange acknowledgments.
        We normally exchange acknowledgements of all kinds of things: the progress of her garden, the progress of her job.
         I published a book. I sent out a little email to all of the people with whom I normally exchange acknowledgements of some sort: exchanges about minor life events, and sometimes big events.
        Dead silence.
        I can't articlulate how hurt I am by this. My guess is that nobody responded out of fear that the book would be bad, leaving them stumped for something to say. After all. it is a Kindle Direct, and the truth is there are a lot of clumsily written vanity pieces in the Kindle Store.
        But mine isn't one of them. I tried my stories out on people who don't know me to get an objective response. Two of my stories made the Community Spotlight here. Another one was posted, ad received positve feedback, at a different website. I paid for a professional edit.
       And anyway, how hard is it to just say something polite? I bought a book and left a positve review for somebody here at Kos just to be supportive, and the book wasn't the sort of thing I read. Why couldn't my friends and family be supportive of me?
        I don't know what to do, beyond whining to you all about this. It's my sister-in-law's birthday. Normally I would send her a "Happy Birthday." I know that's what I ought to do. But I don't want to. I want to sulk and pout and ignore her birthday. Just like I want to ignore my sister  the next time she sends pictures of her paintings and ignore my friend the next time he sends an update about his surgery and ignore ...
        But friendship isn't supposed to be a deal: I pay attention to you if you pay attention to me. It's supposed to be based on ,liking of the other person with the paying-of-attention as a way of expressing that liking.
       And I still like my friends and love my family. So I will send a little note to my sister-in-law. And I will try to forget about being mad.
        But it's going to take awhile.

    Second star on the right and straight on til morning

    by wren on Sun May 26, 2013 at 06:02:11 AM PDT

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