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  •  {{{{{{Laurel in CA}}}}}}}} (18+ / 0-)

    Bless you, your mom, your family.  And thank you for this diary.  

    My sister and I have done quilts for people with loved ones who are slipping away through dementia or who are now gone.  I think it must be the most difficult illness for a family to face.

    I am not sure if this is going to happen tomorrow or not -- but a Kossack has a sister who has been primary caregiver to a mother who is now suffering from dementia -- to the point where the mother has become abusive.  And the sister, who has given 15 years of her life to this care, is, quite understandably, in tears for days on end.  I would like to do a quilt diary tomorrow for her -- but I don't know yet if the timing is good  When the diary happens, I would like the thoughts to be directed, not just to the sister, but to all the caregivers in similar situations.  Because these situations are not uncommon anymore.

    And Laurel, if you would like a community quilt at some point, just let me know.

    You can order Pootie Pads here. Pooties love them!

    by Sara R on Sun May 26, 2013 at 10:44:38 PM PDT

    •  Hugs to you for your beautiful quilts! (5+ / 0-)

      My daughter made my mother a soft fluffy "nap blanket" for Christmas - sort of fuzzy pink fabric with little rosettes, and pink binding. Light, warm, completely washable. My mother sleeps much of the time now and hugs this blanket over her all the time. She tells everyone that her granddaughter made it for her, and cherishes that memory. It's amazing how much comfort one small blanket - or beautiful quilt - can give!

      I hope you do get to make a quilt for the caregiver. I have seen yours here - they are so lovely! You are an artist who translates compassion into beauty.

      And thanks for kind words for us - we actually have a special comfort quilt of our own - my husband's mother made it for us, from pieces of his dad's shirts, after his dad died quite suddenly of a heart attack a few years ago. It has special memories for my husband, like being held in his dad's arms.

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