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  •  I used to live on Capitol Hill in Seattle (5+ / 0-)

    Which is the gayest part of Seattle. I was a regular at a bar (The Deluxe, on Broadway and John Street) where, on any day of the week, probably half the clientele were gay. I had lots of gay friends. I’d say that more than half of my friends were gay, so I was the straight guy and I suppose I was in the minority. Also, for a few years I was the question-writer/moderator at weekly trivia contests at two gay bars back in the 1990s.

    Now I live in Minnesota, which just legalized equality of marriage for gay people. So that’s good.

    I think you’re right. There’s a lot of prejudice in the gay community, but it‘s the same among straight people. Rich against poor, young against old, white against black. Or whatever. Even bears against non-bears (which is a gay thing). But that’s OK. Sometimes a gay person thinks it’s creepy to have sex with someone who’s really old or really young. Or they like blonds but not people with dark hair. Democrats but not Republicans. It’s the same with straight people. When I lived in North Carolina, I dated a woman for a while who told me that if I had brown eyes, she wouldn’t have had sex with me. I was lucky I have blueish-green eyes (but, Jesus Christ, really, you judge people on the color of their eyes?).

    There are a lot of prejudiced people. My girlfriend is somewhat overweight. Someone asked me recently, “Why are you attracted to her?” I said, “She’s wickedly smart. She has a brain that might be more intelligent than mine. That’s why I love her. Most women I’ve met aren’t as smart as her. We have great conversations (and we have sex, too).” And that’s the basis for love and commitment. If you want to be together, for whatever reason, that’s what counts. Fat or thin, smart or stupid, gay or straight, you’re attracted to someone that you like. If you find the right person, count yourself lucky.

    "Stupid just can't keep its mouth shut." -- SweetAuntFanny's grandmother.

    by Dbug on Mon Jun 10, 2013 at 10:09:20 PM PDT

    •  Well, that's a first! (3+ / 0-)
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      Dbug, 714day, Zack from the SFV

      Someone actually said to you they'd refuse to date if you had the wrong color eyes?

      Wow, and I'd thought I'd heard it all, LOL!

      •  I think it was a racist thing (4+ / 0-)

        Black people mostly have brown eyes.

        So instead of saying she wouldn't date a black person, she said she wouldn't date someone with brown eyes.

        That way, she wouldn't seem racist. Or whatever. She played a lot of games. After we stopped dating, I heard a lot of stories about her. She broke up with a really nice guy and then married an Air Force pilot (who beat her). Then she broke up with him and met me.

        She was bad news.

        "Stupid just can't keep its mouth shut." -- SweetAuntFanny's grandmother.

        by Dbug on Mon Jun 10, 2013 at 11:33:45 PM PDT

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