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  •  WeHo here (2+ / 0-)
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    Renee, Gay CA Democrat

    I'm late to this party, but was there at WH Pride this past weekend, and have lived in WH for almost 20 years.

    I don't doubt that much of what you say is true. And it can certainly feel that way when you're looking up at everything that's going on around you.

    But I do think you're missing some things.

    1) Lesbians and gays are two different sports teams. We've come a long way toward working together, and queer youth are better at this than older people. There are lots of reasons for this improvement, but for now let's just say there's "less baggage."

    2) I definitely agree that the "community" showcases white people. But my own opinion on this is that's where the ACCEPTANCE exists. How many Latinos, Blacks, or for that matter rural Americans are willing to come out, let alone have their faces on the cover of a gay magazine?

    3) WH has considerable programs for disadvantaged LGBT people. It is not a poor city, and considerable funding goes into public programs to assist the needy. You'll find few jurisdictions in America that put more public resources into helping the community. WH is also part of PATH, and contributes considerable sums to the support of LGBT homelessness.

    4) The best solution is to get involved. If you're here on this site, join Stonewall or the WH Democratic Club. That will give you an outlet to meet people and circulate with a better class of people that aren't fixated on numbers.

    Even though I was a founding board member of Boston's Lesbian and Gay Political Alliance, I fled the city because of the similar attitudes you complain about here in LA. I just figured if I was going to be single anyway, I might as well enjoy the scenery and weather.

    I will say, though, that Chicago has one of the friendliest gay communities in America. There are others, and it's changing, not just in the bigger cities but all across America.

    We'll have to see what the SCOTUS says re gay marriage, and how that effects things. I'm cautious, but hopeful.

    And by all means, if you'd like to meet and discuss things in more detail, message me!

    What separates us, divides us, and diminishes the human spirit.

    by equern on Wed Jun 12, 2013 at 09:49:05 AM PDT

    •  FOR THE RECORD... (0+ / 0-)

      This diary is absolutely not West Hollywood-centric. I reference New York, San Francisco, Los Angeles and West Hollywood. I'm a bit confused as to why more than a few commenters have gotten the idea that my diary was solely or only about WeHo. Far from it.

      I've been to NYC and I lived in S.F. for a decade. Been in LA for 13 years now and do genuinely love it. In my humble opinion, people are mostly the same wherever you go. I think this is even more true of gay men. Having traveled to Chicago and NYC along with living in California for over 23 years, it's my experience that the issues I've raised aren't limited to one geographic location; they're all over the map (pun intended).

      And when things slow down for me over the next couple days, I will most assuredly message you, equern. Thank you for saying hello and thanks for all the cogent points you made here.

      I know nothing of the West Hollywood Democratic Club so I will have to look into that. Thanks again and talk to you soon! :)

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