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    IMHO, it's not an issue about not teaching people to be safe, it's the focus on victims of crime rather than perpetrators when we're talking about social messages and movements.

    It's not just about rape, although I think it is worst there. We've had an increase in the number of hate crimes here in DC (similar to NY), including a troublesome trend of murders and attacks on trans women. The police have conveniently put up posters in the gay bars telling people not to walk to or from the bar alone (I'm sorry, but I live alone, am I supposed to lock myself in until I can get a chaperone?), be aware of our surroundings, not to talk back to people who harass us, etc.

    It's all good and sound advice and it p*sses me royally off. Why? Because there is no parallel sign in the straight bars or in the media telling straight men (who are responsible for nearly all our violent crime) not to harass LGBT people. There's no PSA campaign telling people that beating on someone who doesn't act the way you want is not only a crime, but damn pathetic on top of it.

    We should be tackling crime both ways. Instead we assume that "bad people" are out there who cannot be stopped and therefore we all need to live in fear. Well most of those "bad people" are just regular humans who make really bad choices. I don't think, for instance, most men who commit date rape are thinking "I'm going out tonight and force myself on someone." Rather they're thinking "she's acted in this manner, and therefore I can get what I want regardless of anything else she does or says," or "she's drunk, so I don't have to worry about consent." It's all about straight male privilege and how that colors perceptions and we should be focusing on that as well.

    A government that denies gay men the right to bridal registry is a facist state - Margaret Cho

    by CPT Doom on Mon Jun 17, 2013 at 01:06:09 PM PDT

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